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I will gladly accept all unsolicited pussy pics
as a guy I get the occasional wolf whistle or waving giggle when the rush by completely red in the face... it's nice even though I'm shy
as a brown guy, I am already stereotyped as the source of all evil. i see white dudes being grossly creepy and all and still get away. >
i can't even dare to look at someone, lest they lose their minds or end up being closeted racist. all people need is a bloody "excuse".
The last time someone, other than my wife, complimented my physical appearance was a gay man nearly 10 years ago
No you dont
Reading this just made me feel good. I pretty much only get complimented on how I look by my Mom and I don't count that.
I've been complimented by far more gay men than women. Maybe they know I'm starved for attention.
Gay men are "allowed" to exhibit more feminine traits than straight men, so it makes sense they'd be more free with casual compliments.
Holy shit! This is explains why i WISH i was gay; I've had a few say men compliment me, and it made me wish I could live that life. I've 1/?
I as well will take one for the team.
Never been complimented by a woman (I assume I'm unattractive). I feel like this is why I've dated any woman who's ever complimented me 2/?
Even if we were clearly incompatible (mini-stories behind those). I've always just jokingly called myself a slut, but maybe I'm an 3/?
My wife complements my appearance all the time and it really improves my day. Frankly she's the only lady I care to impress.
Emotionally damaged slut. I'm also currently very drunk, vulnerable (sexually), and willing to look past personal growth atm... 4/4
thats the best, my gf (wife) we are together for 12y now, and she compliments me, makes me feel so good. good luck to you two ^^
But that would make them solicited, right? Thus you will, I'm afraid, be getting none!
I got my first random nude a few days ago! Look, ma! I’m a real imgur now!
What's a compliment?
I've had more gay men say "I love you" to me than women, and actually meant it.
How do you keep your cool? I'd be so annoyed all the time.
Well to be fair, I think we all know what defining feature male porn stars are marketed by...
I'm not letting you make this sacrifice alone, brother!
I'm at that point where my wife occasionally compliments me and I don't even really believe her I'm like "Love blinds us all."
Note to self: compliment all the dudes
This makes me think that next time I go on a date I'll tell the guy he looks nice.
I'll remember to compliment a guy for something related to his appearance when I go on a date.
Solicited would mean they ask first, no?
send bobs and vagene
You look nice
Regularly, through rarely by women. Is what it is.
You're sexy. Wanna bang?
Wow... never thought of that. Almost makes me want to off myself.
This here is bullshit.
You don’t have to post shit to show someone. Just link the fucking original post or better yet just fucking text them you point whore
I get compliments all the time in my appearance and I always assume they're sarcastic.
but we are totally equal, you guise
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Gun to my head, I really can’t name a single time aside from my mom or at the time significant other. Even then, mom way more.
Just go to Arbys for the same effect.
Wow, I suddenly feel inclined to send this guy a dick pic.
So who did things to you as a kid? Your dad? uncle? stepdad?
I always enjoyed being a bouncer at the gay bars and clubs because I would always get compliments even though they knew I was straight.
I used to compliment my ex wife every single day, she NEVER reciprocated. Since then it has been pretty much the same with nearly every woma
Last compliment I had was from a gay guy and before that. Over 2 years ago by a colleagues GF.
n that I have dated.
As a lady speaking only for myself,sometimes I'm afraid to compliment men other than mine cuz they/he may think it means more than it does:(
My guy's best pal got a GREAT haircut recently but I didn't want either of them to think I was attracted or something, so I didn't say
My uncle used to repost all the time. At first it was telling same joke every Christmas. Now it’s the same cat video over and over again.
I hate Tumblr
How did you discover my dark secret behind why I hate reposting point whores?
(As a wife) Are there compliments that feel extra nice? I try to give my husband a lot of encouraging verbal love but am unsure what sinks..
Pretty much all of this. It's why I'll go out of my way to compliment dudes. The lack of positive feedback for our appearance can suck.
..and what kinda gets lost in day to day words. We have a very equal/supportive relationship but I just want to make him feel extra good...
... Thanks in advance for all helpful advice, you beautiful men! <3
That's how they get ya
I would much rather be complimented on what I've accomplished than how I look.
I've never had a significant other and I can't remember my mom even ever doing it. So absolutely never for me
As a straight guy, gay men are remarkably good for my self-esteem.
I, a straight male, got eye fucked by a gay man one time. Immediately, I felt weird about it. However after giving it some thought...
I went to look for a Christmas selfie to see if I could give you an updated compliment... there’s not one. I figured the thought only 1/2
Congrats on the anal
I had no idea this was something men go through, I’m so sorry for not considering that, truly.
2/2 counts if someone knows you thought it so here you go! An almost compliment ???? ♀️
I was like, hey if a gay guy looked at me like that, there's GOT to be some woman out there who would.
Last time that it wasn't my mom. Was a close friend who I have a major crush on completing my style. Felt great for like a week.
I think that's a difficult one to answer because it's gonna be different from everyone. Talking from personal experience just getting a >>
Plot twist. He wasn't gay you converted him.
compliment on anything from the one you love is all you need. a simple "looking good" or just an approving look is all I needed to have a >>
They can smell it on you
If a girl wolf whistles me, idk what I would do. A few hours later I'd be elated
good day. Just show him you appreciate him is all.
You are a sexy beast and incredibly intelligent! Everyone deserves compliments and I'm sorry you haven't gotten any.
My SO got checked out by a gay man and was so flattered by it he still brings it up every once in a while and that was a year ago lol
How was it?
+1 for a nice, honest reply. :D
(As a husband) I love when my wife grabs my ass and tells me how hot it is. I guess, for me, I like a little lewd suggestive action.
This makes me feel a lot better. I openly tell men friends "you look dapper/lovely/nice tonight" and I'm always worried it's weird or not ok
As a gay man I have these conversations with my friends regularly. We'll often look at straight men and say to each other: dude you really..
.. have no idea how hot you are. It's also an attractive quality tbh but I wish it wasn't the case. Embrace the dad bod you sexy animal.
I also like being the one who escalates the romantic aspect, so I get worried it will not be accepted or appreciated by yon dudes.
I had a colleague (woman) who once complimented me. It was about six years ago, and I still blush on the memory.
Don't you guys have female friends? I get compliments from them if get a new haircut or properly clean up or wear something nice..
As a bi, I ignore unsolicited nudes from either sex
.... I’m a dude
If he has done anything new to his looks, shaved, trimmed, new clothes, say he looks good specify that the change suits, I would love that.
Take it a step further, even the writer says "no one wants to see dick pics" our sex is so worthless it's slang term is "junk"
I've got a male friend, and he and I compliment each other back and forth about every time we speak to each other.
Just to clarify, I am a man as well. And we're both straight
I had an old lady I was buying work boots from say that had nice eyes three years ago.
I know the girl who runs the Fawnfreckles blog and let me tell you, she's an absolute delight. The person who responded was 100% right.
She's so nice it almost hurts.
The gayness? What does it smell like?
Well, that's your opinion. This sounds like the ramblings of a male with low self-esteem and a highly dissatisfying sex life.
You are a lovely, good person.
My mother was the last person to compliment me besides my ex fiance. It's been too many years
Did you just try to humanize unsolicited dick pics? Nah man it's harassment not matter how you feel about yourself/your body.
Depending, some have to take chances as not every gay guy shows. Also, many gays that I know love to express their affection. Women can 1/2
If it becomes too much for you, forward them to me, we will share the burden!
Say something! Firstly, tell your old boy. Then compliment your old boy. Then compliment his best pal. Compliment Bill Nye. EVERYONE!!!
Quite often, when one sex is aggravated by something, you can find its twisted mirror image for the other sex.
my girlfriend tries to compliment me but even she doesnt that often and it almsot never feels genuine probably from lack of experience
It's honestly one of the easiest way to get me to go on a second date. All it takes is one. Too many and it's kinda fake. One and I'm in.
2/2 be afraid that men will get mixed signals like "You are free to harass me", or worse in some cases.
I think you're handsome.
I tell my man almost every time I see him how gorgeous and handsome he is. The sad thing is he really doesn't believe me.
Sure. The reasons for harassment is still somewhat interesting.
I have several. They say nothing. But they do bitch about other men to me, and how much they hate guys. So... not too good feeling.
This was... eye opening. Thank you
My Fiancee compliments me quite frequently, but outside of that it's been about 2 years since I was complimented on appearance
I tell men when they handsome af and I'm a straight man, because I'd wanna hear it too.
A female friend said my haircut looked good and I nearly fell off the park bench. That was last summer. I still think about it.
I'm not gay but someone sent me an u solicited dick pic once and for some reason I was flattered???
1 Tbh I've had the same experience, as a man I'm simply expected to be macho and not care but it does bother me to not be noticed after I
That makes a lot of sense... Though as an asexual, I feel drowned in relationship stuff. I wish action shows and movies didn't feel the (1)
Just one will make him jump in happiness. Even better if you wait for like 30 minutes into the date.
Holy crap. Its almost like whether it's harassment or not is directly related to how attractive the "victim" finds the "perpetrator".
Us men don't know what women want. After thousands of years, dick pics and wolf whistling are all that we've come up with.
I'll keep that in mind :)
This is bad. Unsolicited wolf-whistling isn't a cool thing to do, regardless of the target. You never know how the individual will take it.
need to add them in always... Though I understand why they do.(2)
The reasoning might be flawed, but there's nothing at all wrong with the premise.
Even if I *did* get wolf whistled at by a stranger, I'd probably think it was a sarcastic joke and go around paranoid the rest of the day.
2 Spend months at the gym working my body to avoid that middle age pudge only to be thought of as barely passing for what I'm supposed 2 be.
I know it would set a great tone for the night. I’m so used to me telling the woman how great she looks and her just saying thank you
Seriously, if your friends are completely unable to compliment you, find better friends or start doing it to them (without being a creep)1/2
Your mom hardly ever comments on my looks anymore.
For all I know, I could be the sexiest man alive, but I can't hear people wolf whistle at me, so I'll just carry on feeling unappreciated.
I didn't realize how much I need this. My wife will say "I like that shirt" once every year or so, but no unsolicited remarks.
I compliment and receive compliments from my best friends on a regular basis, and all is good. It makes you feel loved. The SO's don't mind.
I once got told 'you're very good looking!' by a street-seller, and it's pretty much the only thing keeping me going.
New Years, last year. Friend of mine while playing Truth or dare confided I am a seven on the 10 scale.
It's like when your friends call you stupid and ugly, but the opposite of that.
Might partially explain why my brain shuts down and I don't know how to react to compliments
I mean, it's interesting, and worth talking about, but it's not a big deal. I'm a guy.
Gay men realize those are artificial rules and therefore ignore them.
Surprise grab from behind "Can't wait to get a piece of that sweet dick later" is a for sure winner.
Thanks for the effort
Not all males experience what is described in the post. Happens to you, or a few, or some, or many != happens to everyone.
Be specific, you look good if nowhere near as nice as "I love your beard" "your biceps look great" "your beer belly jiggles nicely"
One reason why when I'm feeling down I'll go drink at a gay bar. They tell me I'm handsome, sexy, pretty whatever. It's nice to be fair
I think you are a wonderful human being :)
But i feel if I say it right after he says it it sounds insincere
My current SO says that I look hot, sexy. She likes my body. This has never happened to me and it felt completely weird. I'm 39
Thanks but answer the damn question
That’s a fair point. No one wants an immediate “you too.”
As a gay male, I wolf whistle at guys a lot. My mom thinks it's a riot
10+ years ago I got my ass complimented and heartily slapped by an enthusiastic - if drunk - young lady. I still remember it fondly.
What is my husband doing wrong? He gets complimented and hit on by strange women often. Makes me want to hiss at them.
Like, no bitch he's mine. I randomly kiss him in public just to make things clear from the start.
It's one of those things you just don't notice until it happens
I only ever get told how skinny I am because I'm not built like a building
Why do people say this as if it's some grand revelation? OF COURSE the way someone takes your actions depends on how they feel about you.
My wife and I are each other's fashion editors. When we're going out, we'll ask "How do I look?" That can result in compliments or advice.
But did you look at J0joTheIndianCircusBoy selfie? He has excellent bone structure :)
Not a grand revelation, a societal fact that many people ("Progressives") don't want to acknowledge.
Had a girl tell me I had fluffy hair. It was about 8 years ago
I have had guys going full clingy on me because I actually listened to what they said and asked questions about how they felt. Basically1
Written by some ugly dude
2/ I treated them the same way as I want to be treated but what I got included guys who were deprived of attention and who tried to make
Doesn't matter what you look like, a woman who cares about you will see you as good-looking. Btw, you are, I checked
3/ it sexual. I mean, I get that it sucks for guys but swamping women for attention isnt the way to go about it. Get a better relationship
I have this thing: i complimemt my guy friend's appearance whenever they change anything about it. I'm a heterosexual man. They love it
Just take a second. Try to notice something about him that you find particularly attractive and tell him. It won't sound insincere =)
I love how tumblr will do everything to defend women’s individualism but generalise men all the same.
It does but the disturbing thing is how many people here agree with it. I'm a guy and everything described in the post is foreign to me,>
4/ with yourself and your friends/family. Dont expect 1 person to go ahead and fix you up either.
Attempting to understand a thing is not equivalent to attempting to condone a thing.
I was buying a coffee mug for my wife’s Christmas stocking and the cashier said I was handsome. Made my month.
Disliking the obligatory romance sub-plots in movies is pretty normal though
but now everyone's acting like it goes every single guy is an attention-starved, lonely, desexualized shell. For fuck's sake.
Mostly I notice if they smell nice and tell them
I can't recall ever being complimented and I've only been a fat wad for about 6 years.
Only compliment if they say you’re allowed to. Remember, equality.
I also was complimented by your mom.
For me it was when i was in highschool when a girl grabbed my ass without warning. probably about 10-11 years ago too!
I used to interact with her. She was great.
It's ok. We appreciate. We may not know how to respond to it, but we appreciate it. Thank you.
Nope, I am a Bi dude, numerous gay guys consider me around an 8-8.5. My entire life I have only been complimented by gay guys or Girlfriends
Honest question to ALL the guys here saying this is true, coming from a guy- what effort goes into maintaining your appearance? I'm not>
But never by a friend or random person that was female. Or even straight for that matter. Literally only gay guys and women I am dating.
True, but it's interesting to hear about how a certain viewpoint interprets the individual's reaction. Even if it is kind of shitty.
Seriously do this, I had to force myself at the gym to look at myself until I stopped feeling uncomfortable, out of the belief I was ugly.
That was a joke btw. Compliments are fucking awesome. Had a old lady tell me (while getting my passport) that I had a nice smile in a 1/2
asking to be an ass, I'm asking because this is genuinely not my life experience and I'm having trouble believing it's the norm.
I get the occasional "looking sharp dude" when I meet up with college buddies after work but I'm not sure that counts because before
I wore a new shirt to work yesterday and had three people tell me it looked good.
Derpy picture, so I chose that one because she made my day. I have that picture for 10 years.. and I’m totally okay with it because of her
So men should be OK with getting unsolicited dick pics from other men, seeing as we women have our "lingerie shopping" trips and all.
On one side I'm happy with me and that's enough, on the other side, I can't even remember the last time I was complimented.
I remeber every compliment I got (after the point I remeber the first things). longest distance between 2 compliments were ~5 years
The last time someone complimented me, it was an 80 yr old woman, and I was giddy for the rest of the day. That was a year ago.
I think the last time I got complimented was when a cashier at Zaxby's said she liked my eyes about a year ago or so.
Suits every day it was bizarre that shirts and the same pair of jeans every single day
Yeah ok, but that's an internal thing and a few compliments won't help your general self-esteem. That's under your control 1
You gotta love yourself before someone can really love you (cliche I know..but true) 2
Maybe instead of r/roastme we could do an I/niceme where we try to come up with complements for everyone. wouldn’t work but it’s a fun idea
I was agreeing with this but the TL;DR I don't at all. I don't think the lesson here is catcall all you want til someone tells you to stop.
I was thinking this about myself. I am so cynical of any compliment I get from my gf, not that I don't trust her, I just don't believe it
Sometimes I feel like complimenting a guy, but I don't want to open a floodgate of unwanted attention. As an artist, I ogle in silence.
I don't even truly believe my gf when she says she thinks I'm attractive, because I think she's just saying it to make me feel good
As a white woman, very very rarely are the brown guys the creepers. I actually usually like it if a creeper is in my store and a 1/
Yeah I remember the last time I was complimented. It was 2 days ago...by my mom.
minority male walks in, I know the creeper will leave immediately, either out of racism or just another male is around idk but it works. 2/2
that's not really true either. the conversation is about unwanted advances. if it's not unwanted, it's not harrassment plain and simple.
haven't really noticed it before myself but i've only been complimented on my looks twice by someone that wasnt my family, while working 1/2
behind the register, one was from 2 girls who asked if they could take me to go aswell, and another was by a gay man at the gay pride parade
To be fair, the slang for everyone's genitals is junk, and there aren't many flattering nicknames for privates for either gender.
If don't want it to happen to you, don't do it to others.
I think overcompliment men/people to the point it seems insincere. Or they think of it as a come-on. Doesn’t deter me too much though,
i get compliments on haircuts but i always think its more of a politeness thing than an actual compliment...
I'm at the point where if someone compliments me I automatically assume they're lying so they don't hurt my feelings.
Cat calls are not genuine compliments. Stop objectifying everyone. Do not "feel free to whistle". Just fucking stop.
Last time for me was about 5 years ago. Some girl hugged me after I drove her and her friends home and whispered that I was 'sexy' >
i do this and that was 10 years ago, so look forward to that :)
Felt weird, but kinda nice. She was probably trying to hit on me, but I was already in a relationship, so it didn't go any further
I work on reception I often complement men when I can see they've made an effort.
Definitely, that's a good point. The "TL;DR" message kind of broke my heart though
Last time I remember being complimented I was about 14 and it was an old lady saying I had lovely long curly hair. Now I’m 42 and balding.
I compliment but will now make an effort to do it more. Fuck strongly gendered social norms and how much damage they do.
Right there with you, unfortunately. No compliments, but comments like "men have nothing of value to offer" aplenty from female friends.
I work in hr, so I think once I’m out of work I let all the compliments fly freely without worry of offending someone with kindness
what the fuck is wolf whistling
Not as black and white, guys sending unsolicited dick pics only represent like 1% of the male population
An old lady like 2 or 3 months ago, it was a shock certainly
That's true. It is a big oversimplification of matters.
The one I can remember was a co-worker saying I had a good voice for phone sex after making an announcement for fresh baked bread.
Just the other day someone on the bus complimented my hair (I'm a guy). Felt really nice c:
The last time I remember was during my senior trip in highschool. I'm 40.
you get used to it after a while.
Can confirm. Fuck toxic masculinity. Enjoy life, and be nice to others. Throw out a compliment every now and then and brighten someones day.
Yup, still call bs
My mom always saying I'm handsome (doesn't count), but two years ago a male friend said my work clothes made me look mature. Close enough?
That's kinda sad, honestly.
For me it depends on the day. But maybe 10% of the time I try to look my best 50% of the time I try to not look bad, the other 40 don’t care
Beyond my mom when I was younger, my only compliment was a random imgurian to a pic I posted a few years ago. Surprised how good it felt.
And I live for compliments on that 10%
Does family count?
I try to compliment my male friends and they never know how to react but they never say it's uncomfortable or to stop.
A (male) coworker and I pretty regularly complement each other's clothes. It's a little thing but it's nice to hear and say.
Yeah, I'll admit that I would. It needs a cultural shift where it becomes normal to do.
I just get the ambiguous "oh, you got a haircut..."
I'd take that every day of the week.
i don't remember the last time someone complimented me on my appearance that wasn't family
My boyfriend gets compliments from our female and gay male friends, but I don't know if I've ever heard him complimented by another guy. Huh
I think you hit one nail on the head with the phrase “maybe I’m just and emotionally damaged slut”. We all slut around because of our damage
I'm gonna steal this memory.
Kinda relate to that. Get compliments from guys all the time. They're so much more direct about it. So ez. But I'm just not wired to be gay.
I'm married, two kids, and pretty comfortable with my lot in life... 1/2
When i was young (11/12), a girl I like told me "GET OUT, YOU ARE GROSS". Now, I have 27 and I cant even tell a girl to go for 1/2
And I still have and wear a pair of jeans that a classmate in college said looked good on me. For a guy, this is a big deal. 2/3
Went to a gay bar with my wife. Possibly one of the most ego boosting nights of my life and the only time someone has bought me a drink.
Positive outside reinforcement doesn’t hurt either though. Like the wall of text says, none of us ever get compliments, so it’s an easy >
Other men comment on haircuts as well, so it's not exclusive
> conclusion to draw that “if nobody ever compliments me, it must be because I’m hideous.”
You look nice.
Well my grandma says I'm handsome. So there!
some beers, because I start thinking "Im gross, why someone would like to date me?" and I start to feel anxiety, like, a lot.
Compliments feel great to people who don't get them often. My wife compliments me from time to time, and it makes my whole day better.
A regular at work said my long hair suited me, and I was so surprised by anyone complimenting me that I couldn’t formulate a reply at all.
Well, that's all my hopes down the drain.
The last time I was complimented on my looks by someone who wasn't family was about 12-13 years ago. Yes, I still remember it.
The only compliments I get, is from people who ended being manipulative as fuck.
I’ve been engaged 3 times, and more than a dozen other girlfriends; and the biggest compliment I ever had was, “You’re not hard to look at.”
You do realise that sometimes that's exactly what's needed, do you? The 1 person fixing you.
They grew up as men not getting any compliments too, but have bucked most of that system so they’re “free to do it” and know you need it.
The fact that we don't receive them means we are even less likely to believe there is even a shred of sincerity. Especially from >>
Strangers on the internet, who've never seen us in person
The only thing that’s hard to look at, is the sun. Was she just saying that I’m not very bright?
Had a gay friend call me attractive 4 years ago. Still riding that high. So be prepared for a good date if you do
No, true. but if someone gives you a compliment and you're not ready to hear it, you won't believe it anyway.
I closed and re-opened 6 times, favourited and tried from my account page and I STILL CAN'T GET THIS FUCKING IMAGE TO COME UP ON MOBILE
You are a blessing on the internets +1
Hahaha ok, good to know. Quality of conversation won't be altered that much but at least he's happier. :)
This is so so important and a huge component of what’s wrong between men and women. Also a big part of why men end up raping and killing. 1
do it. it throws people off. i work with a kid at my second job that has troy polamalu hair. telling him hes got fantastic hair is funny
We’re told that all we want is sex, but then we’re constantly told that no woman wants us for that purpose. So we become bitter and angry 2
Yeah I can count on one hand all the times.. but they were great. Even if I wasn't into them it was still awesome.
he has no idea what to say.
And we’re told to bottle up our emotions because to let them out is “gay/girly”, so we get even worse. Eventually it destroys us inside. 3/3
This explanation is why, as a woman, I hate the "wolf whistles are equal to rape" feminazi position. I'm a mom and a wolf whistle boosts my
Been working out a lot lately and one day found "You're looking good! Keep it up!" written in lipstick on the window of my car. Pretty sweet
He hits the nail on the head!
confidence for hours, if not weeks. It's nice to be reminded I'm more than a mom.
I totally understand that, was just trying to do my small part. PM me a pic and I'll compliment you. Everyone should be praised sometimes.
Have it! Not what i expected to hear, but i don't want it, go for it!
My partner and I compliment each other constantly, but our self esteem is so low we don't believe one another.
Some are, some are not. As a gay guy I was sick of them grabbing my butt and junk. But I did have guys turn around and say "DAMN!" Felt sexy
We do, but a negative side effect of this culture avoiding complimenting or sexualizing men means that when a female friend does say
A guy I worked with was pretty closed off and distant. He got a new hair style that looked really good on him, so I told him. He quickly -
something nice about us, there is a significant chance that it could alter the friendship, which might be another force perpetuating
I'm bad at providing advice. I always think she looks great.
Its not that I dont want to compliment guys, its just that whenever i do, they think im flirting and they hit on me.
became a good friend while I worked there.
Gay men are looking for something different. Once in awhile we as cock lovers come together and gawk over one man. Like Timberlake.
the issue. It is unlikely that a female friend of mine could say something like this without me wondering if she is trying to advance the
I lost a decent amount of weight and was complimented by some women I hadn't seen in ages, I literally had no idea how to react.
HAH... thanks for the comparison, but I'm not in the same ballpark/league/sport as Timberlake
Ya I gotta be honest. Women never compliment me on anything. This felt good to read
Two years ago. Woman working at an in n out asked what color my eyes were because they were "amazing, green and blue and grey!"
Solicited = asked for. And you just asked for them, therefore they'd be solicited.
relationship to the next level. I do hope that future generations of men will enjoy a little more validation, as like the author said here
After 20+ years z_z
One time a girl commented that my sweater was nice and I still think about it most times I go to wear it... That was like 4 years ago
I'm honestly thinking this is why my marriage collapsed. I was hungry for something I couldn't put into words.
I seem to be having the same problem.
I think equalizing the experiences of the sexes would lead to deeper understanding, and a greater mutual respect.
The last time I got any sort of flirty gesture was on my motorcycle. So literally covered head to toe.
It's more once we live with someone a while, we notice all the things that are attractive to us that aren't immediate from the outset. Also-
HAH, not even my wife compliments my appearance!
Yeah, there's the innocent non sexual compliment from above.
See, I’m weird. I always compliment my dude especially if I’m like uncontrollably attracted to him on a physical and mental level. I’ve had
I think you need brown girl. I think you are a legal immigrant from India or something. You should try impressing girls that from there.
I am trying to learn to not let it get to me. It only does me damage. Reality is what it is. Fretting over it is only harming me. Ironically
people criticize me. But I feel it’s important my fella knows I appreciate his face/etc on multi levels. Everyone likes to be told
so·lic·i·ta·tion səˌlisəˈtāSH(ə)n Noun The act of asking for or trying to obtain something from someone.
He won't ask, he'll just gladly accept any that are sent his way.
someone is attracted to them.
I try to always be sincere in my compliments - realized the way I worded my previous reply made it seem like I'd just make something up.
I'm dumb and thought that would format. Heck.
I’ve had this problem before. We need to make “no Herero” a think I guess to distinguish a good ol compliment from a take me now compliment
intelligence changes how we perceive someone's looks. I've met some pretty "bland" or "ugly" dudes that became handsome to me because -
I thought that was a lowkey way of asking. Fuck semantics.
they're either smart or witty, or both.
Interracial marriages are difficult and often end up in divorce.
Nietzsche Zarathustra is helping. He was not a "white supremacist etc.", I know. I am following the "40 thoughts" approach he mentions >
Does drunk old women count?
through a wise old man, for better sleep. It is about calming the mind, so it works beyond having a good sleep.
(Hit enter too early) This perception comes from men I don't have any romantic or sexual attraction to as well.
Thank you :-)
Brown girls kind of have a chip on their shoulder: all brown men are already "inferior" to white men. They can get away with this weird >
Their acting prowess?
"I'm a gay sex icon... And I'm okay with that"- Nerd³
That seriously just made my day. Thank you. :-) it's amazing how big an impact a small compliment can make. Thank you
Gonna be honest. The last compliment I got, that wasn't from my mom or 'nice haircut' was probably 'man, you work fast' on a project I had
to get through some rush approvals a year ago.
bigotry, because "Evil Brown Man". It's not worth it. I am trying to find my peace in the circumstances.
Very interesting, but ignores factors like society & biology, and relies on an odd combo of wide generalizations and hand-picked specifics.
Me neither! Makes a lot of sense now
Wait till you find out men have other erogenous areas besides the penis.
+1 for beer belly jiggles nicely. Seriously though, be sure to tell him how stylish he looks when he dresses nice, or clean shaves.Smell too
I'm saddened that reading the word intellectual was awkward because of all the cringe memes.
Cat calling but for males
I've only ever been outwardly commented on as being attractive by gay males. I'm not gay, but I get flustered and my mood improves alot.
Being a mother shouldn't make anyone feel like you're any less of a woman. It's the fruit of your feminine sensuality, for crying out loud.
Humans have flaws. These flaws do not make them less human. Dehumanizing them pushes them into the arms of people who validate these flaws.
Yes, but being isolated with young children, messy, cleaning their messes, and taking the brunt of their anger as they learn to control
Their actions when they're emotional is a discouraging task to face. It's very common for sahp to lose their identity.
As a 16 year old who's been in one or two relationships, No one has ever complimented me specifically. I've received a handful of "you're1/2
There's a flattering term for a dick-sucking hole in the wall, though.
Handsome"... that's about it
i haven't been in a relationship in about 8 years. haven't been complimented, besides family, in that entire time.
Maybe you just don't look that good
Honestly, you have to meet a guy talking about how much girls get hot for him with at least a small grain of salt.
oh wow over 2k upvotes oO you guys r rly into it, ill upvote every comment that says they complimented some one :3
youre funny bro
As a guy, I'm not really bothered by it (I've never felt the urge to send dick pics). But, when I do get cat-called, it does feel nice.
I always try to appreciate the attractive qualities of a man. And Ill let them know, without it being weird or trying to lead them on.
For my part, when I'm staying home and I don't have a girl around, you're lucky if I shower. On a normal work day, I'll spend 15-20 minutes
you can do it, she wouldnt choose you if it werent true
Assuming you didn't already look before making that comment, I have a picture on my profile
I dated a really pretty girl once, and I would tell her so. I eventually stopped because she looked exhausted when I told her, like she was
after a shower shaving myself clean (beard trimming would take a lot more time) and making sure my hair won't fly wild, getting sweet-
sick of it. So strange the difference in experiences. Her reaction makes a lot of sense now.
its hard for us, we think stuff like, 'youve to say that cuz youre the one in love with me' but keep telling it to him :) he will admire...
I'm a straight guy, but the first time a gay dude hit on me was one of the most flattering moments of my young adult life. Keep it up.
you just even more. Also him telling you this is an indicator of him wanting more of it like, ah stop it its not true, but secretly he wants
smelling. Picking out clothes is brief, mostly because I have all dark pants, with all of my shirts, shoes, and ties being something that
One of the reasons I really like having a large beard: It gives other men something to compliment me on without it being sexual in any way.
That's understandable. I'm still hoping parenting goes well enough for you that it doesn't completely overwhelm that sense.
can be worn with dark pants. If I'm on a date, I can easily spend an hour getting ready, though. For a long-term girlfriend, I'm more
female friends oO the only female friend i ever had is my wife XD barelly hang out with women. And after i met her 12y ago i didnt want,..
my friend once told me my haircut looked nice
any other girl around me :D
comfortable, but I'll still get ready and clean up when she comes over. More casual than work, but I'd take more time with it, too.
hahaha thats kinda cool, im straight but would totally blush :D you go dude
Yeah I am well loved by most gay men I meet. I am not sure if I am more attractive than I think. Or if they are misreading my friendliness
I think every sensible human knows where they stand in terms of finding a partner. I mean not everybody is going to get a Gigi Hadid.
dont do that, assume there is at least half of them true :)
For real. She goes by ArduousAngel now iirc
Why? How is it so unbelievable? Obviously not the Hollywood "guy walks in and girls start swooning" thing but all the guy said was that he>
gets an occasional wave/ whistle, which is well within the realm of possibilities.
Seconded. I should talk to the gf about that.
this is a great idea, like instead of telling how dumb some one can look, telling them how great of a person tehyre, imgur should start it
that's weird. Maybe because you're older than me but my guy friends and I compliment each other's looks all the time.
I honestly can't remember the last time anyone said anything nice about me.
My co-workers compliment me, but I do the same back to them.
The last time anyone besides my SO complimented me was a patient at the mental hospital I worked at telling me I had nice hair. 5 years ago.
Most compliments directed towards me come from a significant other, my mother, another relative, or... middle-aged/elderly women somehow.
The best product in the world is ignored without proper marketing. You should understand this.
Let me reread it.. hmm.. no, it's just bullshit.
Tell him you like his glasses. If he replies that they're not for sale, he's a keeper.
It's believable, sure, it might happen. On the other hand, guys also brag about how much girls like them with legendary inaccuracy, too.
And this is another consequence of how rare it is for a guy to get complimented.
2/ that also might be happening. So, as I said, it is worth a grain of salt.
I hadn't looked; you have really pretty eyes! And intelligent, math was the bane of my existence all throughout school.
By and large, men don't have very many female friends. Women tend to think we're cheating.
After reading stuff like this years ago, I started trying to compliment my SO more. It comes out like "I like your face" but still. Progress
That only really works if he wears glasses, no?
That's a very minor detail.
I'm bald and when I finally shaved my head like Picard I got compliments from my female coworkers. That was 8 years ago, still remember.
I was called funny once by a girl in my class about 7 years ago. Never gotten anything for physical appearance (although I'm no prize)
Blame your gender for being selfish with compliments.
Thought they are disgusting...I will take them all for the team.
Google it. It’ll make most sense to watch a video and hear the whistle
What shitty females,one of reasons I dont have many female friends - I refuse badmouthing my husband and hate when they bitch about theirs
this blinding thing wears of after ~6 months, after 1 year it should be gone entirely. Im in a 12y relationship. You can believe her if she
compliments you. Think like that, if she wouldnt think that way, why would she choose you in the first place :D it must be true.
You're probably a twink.
I would compliment all the dudes but usually when I do they think I'm hitting on them and get weird
The people whose opinions I care about are mature enough to look past "marketing". What a shitty way to think about yourself.
that... what? false equivalence? I think it was more an explanation of a theory and less a "girls get this so this is ok" kind of thing.
Fair point. I'm just growing tired of the imgur conviction that all guys are socially unsatisfied/ lacking.
i've been complimented by an older lady, though it is weird, i did feel good
even as a straight guy, im some times pissed about the male actors, i enjoy the porn more if the actor does look better and is not gross or
when you can see him only from behind, i also dont like male butts :D
I have a huge bald spot and if I don't keep my hair as short as possible it looks shitty. I try to trim my nose hair. Married 12 yrs
be aware for him not to fall for you, it might be fun for you but pretty much serious looking for him ;)
haha dapper, that sure is swell
Being a guy, we have something of a bullshitometer that calibrates a little differently when it comes to guys talking about their conquests.
If he doesn't think you're an adorable idiot, he's not a keeper anyway.
I don't know what you look like but by scrolling through your posts I know at the very least you have an attractive personally (nerd wise)
Incoming blue waffles.
I'd assume most men think that because it happens so rarely. Their assumption for a woman to compliment them would be they like them.
Last time was back in highschool. I was told I had good shoulders
Compliment all the the people all the time~
ah ok, thought first youre a girl. Hmm depends on how you compliment each other, it might be gay, no judging but what if there is secret...
Though nothing in his post must be untrue, it did ring bells for me, but it's still very possible that I'm wrong.
Same, still feels good though, being complemented.
I’m not asking. I’m just saying they would be accepted.
rly dont know what to say about that :/ im white, i dont like this kind of negative behaviour but whistling is nothing i would see as
It hurt how real that was
something negative. How ever its sad that people still think so negative about people just because of their skin color. Sadly its like it is
I have no doubt that Justin Timberlake is very popular with the ladies too though.
When a girl complements me I think about it for days. Whenever somethings upset me or I'm just having a rough day. I think about her-
but i hope humanity will better it self in near future and every one will be judged by his doings and not his apearence
and her complement and it makes me smile.
A question for guys: what compliments do you like? For example I know quite a few guys hate being called cute. What compliment is your fav?
The world needs more sex!
As a man who has been, often, wolf whistled at, and catcalled, how about you FUCKING DON'T!
"Bro should I tuck my dick to the left or the right? What do you think?"
At least she says it though.
While I agree with the sentiment, I also believe that people should always be complimented more on what they do than what they are.
The only time i got a comoliment from a girl i wasn't dating was 6 years ago when a carhop said I had pretty eyes.
The last time I was complimented on my appearance was when I was 17....I'm 24 now.
You have provided more validation and positive encouragement to those straight men than a lifetime of interactions with women. Thank you sir
He probably didn't realize it was directed at him.
I actually started to keep a count of how many compliments I've gotten over the year to see just how bad it really is, hoping to prove
You are good at writing comments!
SO MANY gay men! Holy crap! I just take the compliment and move on.
i'd say still don't wolf whistle random people, but tell your friends when their barber did a good job on their beards and shit.
to myself it's not as bad as I think it is. It's worse. I haven't received a compliment about my person (not my actions) in a month'n a half
Never been complimented on my appearance by someone I wasn’t dating. Even they didn’t really compliment me. But mum says Im beautiful so...
if he's incredibly good looking he might. i'mma need a pic tho, for reference
Hahaha i'll keep that in mind
And the compliments I DID receive were either about a new haircut, or about my clothes (since I routinely wear a dope wookiee sweater)
My wife likes cutting my hair. Early on, she was so excited to see me get compliments on my hair. Til she realized no one notices. She felt1
Probably a good thing women don't know what push-overs we are in this department. They'd have us wrapped around their pinkies!
I know, it's a vicious cycle isn't it? :(
I agree. We should all be able to be nice to each other without it being automatically awkward or sexual
This, have been seeing a girl for a while that tells me she likes the way i look, and everytime time im like....yeahok
Horrible. So she tried doing my eyebrows, and grooming my beard. A few days later, one person noticed. My mum. That was it. She still likes2
To cut my hair, but shes still hopeful more than one person notices the difference
Honestly, making communications classes including education on inflection and body language standard might help but yeah idk
And I am sure you are looking very fine and handsome today!
I... Dont? I assign blame to the ones that thought that being kind = flirting/wanting to date and got hostile when that wasnt the case. 1/
I never even said I had a list of what I want in a partner. When I find someone who'll treat me as human, there *might* be hope for me.
Nice thing about having a beard is that at least it will get compliments every once and a while. Might be why I won’t shave it...
Old ladys compliment me frequently. I mean, it happens all the time, like every 2 years.
2/ I mean, it is awful that guys do not get complimented as much and that their feelings are shoved under the rug. That isnt right. But
3/ you can chose to better yourself, validating emotions, engage in better relationships and be the person you want to be. The type of guy
4/ that I described where young (<25), intelligent but emotionally deranged ánd flat out refused to confront their issues. The real kicker?
I currently play high school football and i got complimented by the football players a lot more than my significant other.
5/ They blamed others for their problems and thought that the world owed them something. Not every guy is like that but if someone gets
I was going to comment the same thing.
How bout no
6/ burned multiple times, people tend to get very careful who they open up to and compliment.
It's true. Closest thing I get to a compliment is girls wanting to steal my eyelashes.
I have been mistaken for a girl on no less than 3 occasions by old men. No one has ever complimented my appearance beside my mom.
How else would I get my girlfriend to go?
I never really get complimented by my partner, if I do it's only because Ive pressed for it because I feel upset by it
I don't think I have ever been complimented on my appearance by anyone other than my wife.
You don't address a problem by remaining willfully ignorant of its causes.
And the cycle continues.
Well, thank you. Unfortunately, years of nearly every woman I meet online stopping talking to me after seeing what I look like, if not 
flat out calling me ugly first have given me a bit of a complex about my looks... But I'm trying to get over it.
To be fair, I don't think many of us guys realized this until now. It never dawned in me that other than my wife (or my mom when I was (1)
Let's just assume they have a friend that they don't have a phone number for, like most people on the internet, and not be a cunt.
Thanks. I've never had much trouble believing that because I've never really had trouble making friends. Just anything beyond that
growing up) that I rarely, if ever, received any comments on my appearances.
One of the best compliments I have ever received was from a gay guy.
Dude here who never gets complemented and I love it. So I complement other dudes all the time and they don’t know how to react. It’s sad....
Send bobs and vageen
Then point out the bullshit.
... I’m genuinely affirming someone and they squirm. Nice haircut man looks good. Cologne smells great what is it?, Sharp shirt bro!...
Lucky. Mom just tells me to cut my hair, shave, get out in the sun more, stand up straight, etc., anytime I visit. Starts to grate at you.
Can you explain that?
Well I think it needs to be genuine, if a girl was just telling me over and over I'm hot it would mean less than "I like your goatee"
Exactly why as an asexual I don't need it... I am just worried about getting my brother, parents, or action-loving friends to go.
Humanize? As if they are some beast? Understanding why regular humans act this way is the first step in solving it.
Yeah but you shouldn’t be expecting that of someone on the basis of them saying something nice to you on occasion.
Well, it's a joke about the rest of us. Guys want to bring their girls, and moviemakers want her money, too.
I’m a straight male but knowing how rare physical compliments are for guys and knowing how much I appreciate them myself,
This is why I like going out to bars with my gay friends, I am apparently a type and always get hit on, & while I have 0 interest it's nice.
if I see a guy with something new on or trying to make an effort I’ll compliment them about
Also free drinks
Look, I'm not trying to jump to conclusions, but what you said sounds a lot like "it's women's fault they're raped because no one compliment
Oh no a Vagina I didn't ask to see what is this blasphemy.
It's a way of saying "easy on the eyes" she said you were pretty.
a cougar danced up on me once while clubbing. me being socially inept was shocked and didnt "dance back" so she soon stopped. but was nice
Some co-worker commented on me growing a beard and that it looked nice. The only positive comment about my appearance I have ever gotten.
I'm sorry, SMBH, I don't think this conversation can serve any purpose.
Those aren't tears, I'm chopping onions.
Damn, that's good!
So, is there a sign equivalent of a wolf whistle?
I'm almost 23, but the only time it's happened to me it was a middle aged woman telling me she loved my hair (it was rather long) 1/2
And that I shouldn't cut it. Not gonna lie, I had no idea how to react other than 'oh thanks..'
Well compliments are so rare, that's exactly how I take them.
Try “thanks! I love your [specific feature or clothing item]”
Does a guy at work asking where I work out count as a compliment? That was just this week, and it is totally an ego boost.
This reminded me of when 2 weeks ago on Wednesday, a random customer said that I have wonderful hair. Thank you, large balding Missouri man.
There's a subreddit for that! It's r/toastme and it constantly brightens my day!
As a straight man I can agree with this, just need to consider some men might feel emasculated by the compliment or wolf whistle.
I like the idea of the post and the message that's attempting to be said. But they are just spouting numbers and ideas like they are facts.
I had someone tell me I looked nice in my Christmas selfie this year. It was a feelsjohngoodman moment.
a friend complimented how I looked at D&D 2 weeks ago and she has no idea how much I needed it
Yes and no. At some point I learned to recognize the types that show such behavior and stopped investing in them if they showed clingy 1/
My whistling skills suck eggs, will an air horn give the same effect?
If the number of flashers on the street skyrocketed, we'd concentrate on controlling and applying law to the problem. So why not UDPs?
Which is why I compliment my bros, and my female friends do the same. If ya see something nice, say something in a nice way.
2/ behavior or other signs of toxicity. Ofc. I tried to be frank by telling that 'I cant control myself around you' isnt something you
I'm a dude. Can I have a compliment?
3/ should say if the other person has rejected you for a date. This does not mean I condemn every guy, just that I became more careful who
4/ to invest in. Nobody wants to deal with crazy.
A female colleague told me the blue sweater I was wearing looked really good on me. that was like 3 years ago.
Other than my wife, I had a gay guy in a pet store compliment me about a year ago, and about 18 years ago a girl said she liked my legs.
I’m saying that the lack of care paid to men creates a toxic environment making them feel powerless. Men and women are equally to blame.
People suck ass. I've been told I'm ugly too - my attitude about it is "fuck 'em". Easier said than done I know but try to not let (1)
(2) the opinions of others affect your self worth. It's their loss, not yours.
I'm gay but Im not comfortable complimenting other men, unless they are hinting that they're gay too, don't want to make em uncomfortable
It was nice info until the TLDR. I agree.
I love the desert/drowning metaphor. It feels right.
Its about frequency and situation, too. If you feel physically vulnerable and like reacting positively to it might obligate further
embarrassment or worse, threaten your safety, or be unwanted attention due to your commitment to another, your probably more likely not to
Last compliment I got was I had nice eyes, before that it was the same compliment but ~10 years prior.
view the attention in a positive light. That, and the first time it might be flattering, but the 1000 th time it might be downright old.
So you claim that the premise is false but cannot or will not explain your basis for such a statement? You sir are a scoundrel!
It wouldn't be a problem if not for the sheer number of times it's happened
In college, my roommate said I looked nice and I was so caught off guard I almost cried. Took a long time to realize how rare it had been.
Had my first real one recently, wasn't sure how to react
Any time I wear a suit my mom compliments me, any time I shave my beard my grandma does. :)
Because they're so starved for validation they don't think it's a casual thing. It means way more to them than it does to you.
Would you mind not ruining this for the majority of men in the civilized world?
I've never been complimented on my looks but in all fairness I'm not that attractive. Oh well, what are you going to do?
I have a lesbian friend who always goes out of her way to complement stuff like that for men she knows.
I dunno if her being gay has anything to do with it but she's the only woman I've met who does that to non-family.
If that's how you feel. How do you figure?
As a bisexual guy: yes. they're kinda flattering, really.
I remember every person who complimented my appearance...wow
For a long time I figured the few people who were attracted to me were in spite of my looks not because of them.
I love your username.
I usually sarcastically try to convince them otherwise
Was told by a customer "if you were gay, I'd eat you up" probably the only compliment I've ever received other than family, years ago
Assuming you are female, you are what I calk "A Bro With A Bra", and you are a shining beacon of hope to many men.
I don't know how Imgur would feel about it, but I support Dude Selfie Day where dudes post pics of themselves and everyone says 1
something nice about them. @OP's post is so true and I almost proposed Dude Selfie Day the last time it was posted. fin
Take it as a compliment. They like what you have and respect you for having it.
I think my last compliment was that my current haircut looks better than my last one.
PS: Here's my dick pic
So now I look through christmas selfies and comment on all the attractive guys? I stop myself from saying stuff bc I don't to treat 1/2
men in the way that women want to stop being treated.
Trying not to have double standards
So much onus is put on guys in regards to dating, and this really ties into it. We have to be able to say something that makes us stand out
from the hundreds of compliments girls tend to get, and when you're not naturally confident it's a real kicker when the interest isn't
women folk like my hair. then they get salty cause mine invariably looks better than theirs.
I understand and I'm sorry you've been told you're ugly so many times. You aren't at all. Unfortunately, most people are just terrible.
eh my mom calls em ugly, I tell her to go fuck herself
reciprocated. It can defeat a lot of people, and that doesn't leave many (or any) avenues for them to receive the affection, companionship,
and/or sex that every human (and guy) wants and/or needs. It can destroy some people.
As a man, whenever I'm complimented for something it just makes me uncomfortable and I don't really know how to respond to it
That's adorable! I do the same when someone compliments me.
Thanks. I love satin ;)
I try to be good at saying nice stuff to my friends and people I do not know. It does not happen often, but perhaps once a month
It's not a joke. By making all these special considerations just for one gender and saying it's equality they create a double-standard
Twchnicallytryi fro steal what you have isn't respecting it. Unlike a TV though, the husband rejects them.
Only time I see women accept a compliment in this decade is when they seem to find the guy sexually appealing, but don't give one themselves
The TV is just a whore though and goes with the first burglar who breaks in.
Everyone wants to feel like they're worth positive attention. Even people who don't LIKE attention.
Of course not, just as women are indoctrinated to act and think in certain ways by other women, so are men.
We're not supposed to be feelsy, we're supposed to be actiony. As long as we look respectable our looks don't matter, we're not the fair sex
In fairness, I can only remember one time I was actually told I was ugly. A lot of immediately ended conversations, though
8 years ago. I was dealing with a trouble customer. She said "you have a kind smile". I left that house feeling like a million bucks.
My wife is the same way. For her I've found that specificity helps. She isn't just beautiful, she's beautiful "because. . ." It seems to /
Imgur attacks people for how they look quite often. I doubt it'd work.
/2 help her feel individually appreciated, and that it isn't just a hollow compliment. It also gives her something to look at herself and /
/3 see if she agrees with me.
But be a little careful about it or they might interpret it as fake or as a hidden insult.
The fox is wolf-whistling. Methinks something strange.
There's, sadly, quite a lot of them and it's a growing number these days.
That's due to our culture making it so that we have to impress women, catch their eye and attention to gain a partner. "Positive sexual->
->attention from female means she is receptive towards me as a potential mate/partner." If that culture changes with women being the ones ->
<- who have to have their requirements exceeded in order to not spend life alone and unloved, then that issue can start to fade.
Still counts. Trust me, I'm a health professional.
Yes. When we go out I compliment how he dresses but he's also a handsome man who doesn't believe it. I never when my ex said I was beautiful
Because I grew up being told I was unattractive and stupid. Finally accepted I'm attractive but beautiful is a step too far
That blows but I'd try to treat it like water off a duck's back. Don't let it bother you and just chat with the next person. (1)
(2) it's the internet, tis a silly and/or cruel place.
And this is why i call my boyfriend handsome every single day and compliment him at random on his beard how he dresses. 1/2
Hes a precious person to me why not let him know that whenever i get the chance? 2/2
One time a girl in class said I had nice eyes. I went bright red. The fact I still remember that tells you how true this is.
Last time I got a compliment on my appearance was from a gay school friend 2 years ago. I actually felt pretty good about myself.
Sounds like Kyle is making speeches again (I enjoyed this though)
I downvoted this, so when I upvote it, it goes up by two.
This is an example of a women thinking she knows about men. Truth is, we just don't care most of the time. We really. don't. care.
Honestly, it happens to me a lot, but I work out 5 days a week so I meet some of those overblown criteria.
What the fuck is a wolf whistle?
I personally don't count those. It's kind of like "your professional attire looks great" vs "you look great." It's still nice though.
Yeah, and I know the rarity only contributes to the misconception and vice versa. It's a tough cycle to break.
I usually notice when guys get hair cuts and are looking sharp and will tell them it looks nice. I feel glad I do that now
Sorry, I don't sleep with TRAITORS TO THE EMPIRE.
I know that feeling. I eventually told them if all their gonna do is insult me everytime I walk through the door I'll stop visiting.
'fraid So. Insert cliché line about being the change you want to see? I don't know.
I compliment my male friends a lot... mostly commenting on their clothes/shoes because I appreciate a well-dressed person.
My mom says I look good with my hair longer.
Man, I wish I was articulate.
Thanks man, 'preciate it! :^)
So you repost bullshit so your friend you have no contact information may hope to see it on the front page? Nah its a point whore pretty obv
As long as you both say "no homo" afterwards it's all ok. :^)
I honestly can't remember when someone complemented my looks, or anything about my appearance at all
On the other side of that, I'm a woman and I don't like getting compliments on my physical appearance. Freaks me out...
25 years old, waitress at worked complimented my hair (I always wear a hat) I felt like a little giddy school girl. This post is to true.
My wife is wonderful at that. I'll feel awful and she instinctively says "you look so handsome in that sweater" etc. and it's amazing
I don't even realize how much I need to hear those compliments until after she says it and I feel soooo much better about myself instantly
I agree but part of why I don't get compliments is I'm a shut-in.
Last time someone complimented me or my looks besides my family/girlfriend was... 16, real nice suit. "Damn you wear suits well! unf!" Am 30
... you do realize this is the Internet, right?
A nice idea, but be aware some guys will mistake it for flirting, or think that you're screwing with them.
My boss said my haircut looked nice the other day. That's about as good as it gets.
I think also part of the reason that men are sometimes perceived as not putting in effort into their appearance is because they don't 1/
receive any feedback. They don't know what looks good because no let's them know when they get a good look. 2/2
This might sound weird, but I find it hard to gauge how I look. I feel like I look entirely different in pics than in the mirror.
I was able to easily towards the beginning, but it just gets harder and harder as time passes
This is why I try to compliment my SO whenever I can. He deserves to feel sexy too
I'm sorry you go through that, man. Really, that isn't fair.
I wore a roman solider costume for a halloween party once, and it showed off my shoulders and legs. My female friends said I looked 1/
really good in the costume. I never thought of those parts of my body as being attractive, no one ever brought it up before. 2/2
Thank you. For what it's worth (since you mentioned it earlier in the thread) I seriously doubt you're ugly either. Though I can't be 
100% certain without seeing what you look like
I know this might not be the answer you're looking for, but maybe you should try asking some other women, and practice being more 1/
comfortable with possible rejection. Dating requires some degree of humiliation, it's normal and it's happened to 2/
just about every guy, myself included. Some people are cruel, but the truth is there are plenty of people who aren't. 3/3
Honestly when a gay guy compliments my outfit or something I take it as far higher praise than when a woman does. Usually it's old women tho
You are appealing, your efforts haven't gone unnoticed and your presence is desirable. Btw I'm also a dude.
Imgur is largely a file hosting site. Images uploaded here are freely accessible to message boards and webpages and other communities that
2/ protect their members' contact information.
3/ and if he wants points, the lie wouldn't serve that. It doesn't add up.
I sometimes hesitate to compliment men, in case they take it as shameless flirtation. Don't worry, I objectify all of you mentally thou.
I'm just saying. We don't need to objectify men to get equality. I'm tired of any excuse to "compliment" people. Cat calls are not 1/
I'm a dude and don't see myself in it.
appropriate affection for anyone. I don't know how pointing that out ruins this for you. 2/2
Thanks. I'm not ugly, though I'm nothing special either. I'm perfectly average.
So continue to perpetuate the objectification of people? Go right ahead. It's your right to be douche. Women and men both need to make 1/
changes. Those changes don't include more objectification. 2/2
So? To assume your feelings mirror those of our entire gender is arrogant to the point of absurdity.
One month I had a girl say my hair looks good, and then a week later another girl said my shirt looked really nice on me. I thought "wow!"
It's the other way around. The pic describes shallow, insecure, childish men with little or no capacity for empathy. I believe better of us.
Yes, Im aware of that. Now, Im taking a rest of people, but I going to try again. Thanks for the advice!
There's nothing childish or insecure about acknowledging basic human needs. What's childish is the need to be seen as an unfeeling automaton
Good point, but let's stop here. Thanks.
Sent a PM of my face, only fair you see mine if I see yours.
Ive only ever been complimented by my mum, which makes me sad
You're right, and the problem with the prison system is we would just lock them up & call them monsters instead of rehabilitating and 1/2
Learning reasons why it happened in the first place to prevent others from falling into the same tendencies.
Do you honestly think even the majority of guys do it for that reason? There are plenty that just don't care, think it's funny, or are asses
Feels like we need /r/compliments
Like honostly.In all truesty and vulnerability that is me. This is the very core issue of me. So I try to validate myself..
You need to relax
That’s okay dear, don’t listen to those other kids.
And, when you went to check on him at home his mother said that he had died 40 years ago, this very niiiiight!! *spooky lightning*
The only compliment like that ive gotten was that i had a cosy voice, 8 years ago
I think it's the free ketchup and mustard you get at the food truck.
Thank you everyone!
"They Keep doing it anyway, because the act of sending it is a psychological relief all by itself." THIS.
So many people assume all behaviors are some form of signalling. They forget that some behaviors have purely internal motivations.
I had a client yesterday compliment my eyes, it completely threw me off, as I can't recall the last time anyone commented on my appearance
A post about a serious topic, am not to I take it seriously? Fuck that.
Thanks! Seems like it's just self positive meditation, a good relaxation for anyone.
Indeed. It applies in general, and is great way to keep the mind calm.
1The whole “youre only saying that cause were related” really sticks. Grew up thinking I was unattractive and it didnt help that I was short
I know it’s a positive message, but it’s always unnerving to me when these wholly un-cited pieces, presented as fact, go unquestioned.
2 Cause I never got a compliment until my first serious girlfriend. Dated a few of basic/toxic people before her but didn’t go anywhere
3 you start to think that your folks are lying to you and it becomes increasingly more difficult to accept their praise. Meanwhile comments
4 “I might date you if you were taller” are real downers to kids who are a year behind girls in puberty So when you finally get a compliment
I'm a man, and I make it a point to compliment men on their looks in the most heterosexual way possible. It is amazing how guys respond.
I vote for a roast me version for guys were people point out attractive qualities
It is the social dynamic. The guys hunt for mates and the women take their pick. I have never heard a man complain about being sent a nude.
Maybe this is one of those stating the obvious posts but this has been the status quo for a VERY long time. Though I'm not sure specifically
5 its ugly duckling lvl eye opening. You start to see in yourself what others see in you whether they say it or not. B4 that 0 confidence
Last time was Grade 8 for me when a couple of girls mentioned I looked good - I had forgotten my glasses that day. Worn contacts ever since.
This. Most women will compliment the fresh haircut or cool t-shirt at most. And yes, we remember it.
Was he bullied as a kid? My lady compliments me all the time. The reason I never believe her is because of bullying 25 years ago.
I take it as take a chance and see how it goes. Not brutally harass someone until they ask you to stop. Cause yeah that’s wrong
He had a marriage where he wasn't loved or valued for himself and it's taken time for him to understand that I love him for who he is
Coward would be more fitting.
Holy shit I would be so happy if I saw that
Feels bad man
And because of this, I will compliment my husband more.
Whistling at someone isn't a serious topic. You need to relax with the pain and agony play here
2012 25ish woman stopped eyed me and said damn before she kept walking I was 18 a cherished memory
I can't think of a single time in my life when I was complimented on my looks by a woman who was not my wife or girlfriend at the time.
Catcalling is a serious topic. I get catcalled almost every single day I work. It gets annoying, not to mention the countless times I'm 1/
I don't know what the reasons are, but by calling them not human you are perpetating a mentality that doesn't help them learn.
made to feel unsafe. You need to realize that the objectification of any person, male or female, should not fucking be encouraged. It has 2/
actual real world, serious consequences. Many of which were stated in this very post. 3/3
I had to google who that was.. so maybe not every one is well versed in football?
This post fucked me up the first time I read it. I don't care how many times it's reposted it still fucks me up.
got it.. strangers calling you stupid and ugly...
I've cant remember the last time I was complimented by a women. Tho I've quite frequently received compliments from other men on my beard.
It wasn't my wife either. It was someone at work.
WHo doesn't? its like silk on your skin.
Every so often I get a compliment on my mustache. They tend to make my day. Amusingly? Most often from very straight black men. Still nice.
I didn't know words could hurt. I was raised to think that was only sticks and stones
The majority of the time I dress in business wear when Im not at home. Otherwise I just dress comfy on my out of work time.
Try something specific... and make it seem masculine but nice. Keeps them from getting suspicious or defensive. (they arent use to it)
I compliment male coworkers all the time on a nice shirt, new shoes, nice tie or haircut. Even perfect strangers of any gender. It’s a -
great way to make someone’s day & their smile is always great to see.!
You smile and say thank you. Then you might want to re-evaluate why you feel that way. possibly seek professional assistance.
I'm not in agreement about the idea that the only "sexy role models" are porn stars Plenty of the trim, dapper suit look to set expectations
I think two men can flirt with the same intent and one will be called harasser b/c he's "ugly" which is unfair IMO b/c harassment is 1/
As a gay man, I try to be open with my compliments to anyone, men or women. I know how good they feel so I give them out freely.
Add that boys are taught that their bodies are not their own from day one through violent athletics and social expectations.
supposed to be when advances are made when knowingly unwanted. The first advance shouldn't be called harassment. Once "Stop" is said? Yes /2
Don't wish you were gay, I have to assume every guy I meet is straight unless otherwise stated. It makes dating very difficult.
Do American guys not get high or drunk and talk real shit?
Dressing and looking nice is just another uniform for me and I only do it when I have too.
Your face is cute! I'd sit on it.
Did you stalk my entire profile? :D
That's both romantic and heartwarming. :)
The last time I was complimented on my appearance was at a friend's wedding last year, but they told my wife after I went to get us drinks 1
2. Never mentioned it to me directly.
Also agree 100% as a gay man.
I even had a gf that in 6 months never thought to compliment me physically despite me constantly doing the same.
Sadly I think a lot of straight women are afraid a compliment will appear like they're showing interest in the guy. So they avoid it.
I'm...not sure when the last time is that I actually complimented my husband. I do other things to show I appreciate him, but...hmm. :-/
And you're also great, and clearly have a wonderful heart.
Very good point, I've never realized until now I've never been complimented on my looks, makes me feel like a beast at times.
2015: In line for the dragon con kiltblowing (participant) girl walks by stops gives me elevator eyes and says "Damn I'm looking forward to
tonight. It's the single greatest point that I have ever felt wanted or sexy.
which is why I find the term "objectifying" so interesting. Male sexuality doesn't obectify. it HUMANIZES. Female sexuality however....
before you downvote when I say human vs object I mean objectivly. take a table for a hypothetical. if men sexualize it we impart human...2
characteristics. "long legs, elegant form etc" female sexualization is more utilitarian "Rugged, hard, sturdy, strong." Ergo Objectification
its becaue she knows what its like to persue women. My lesbo friend compliments me all the time. Love the shit out of her she's my bro
same here but I compliment anyone , weather I personally feel it or not , or just recognize someone else would, I'm straight but tell dudes
they look great today purely because they do / I can tell that's what they were going for , so why not give a little morale boost
How... How did you know?
I don't know if you're a dude and I don't care. This legit brightened my day a bit. Either way your puppy is adorable
I had someone compliment my sunglasses. Said I looked like someone straight out of the Matrix. Made my year.
Sounds like someone who is too old to care and further has had inhibitions removed. Double yes.
My husband gets compliments on a daily basis from strangers due to his beard. It makes him smile every time.
I think the only compliment I ever got was something like "At least you're not as ugly as this other guy" during school - 15 years ago.
Am girl and I meant it :)
I always love when someone asks for dick pics for this same reason.
You are more fun than anyone or anything I know, including bubble wrap.
My go to response is usually “thanks, that’s nice of you to say”. Most people are genuine when they say something nice.
Even the things you don’t like about yourself make you interesting. You are one of a kind.
To be honest, the worst thing ever is being ignored. I'm pretty soft-spoken with an introvertive personality, so even when I do reach out1/2
to people, it never 'sticks'. And I'm not attractive, so any attention that I get has to come from me approaching others. Wew genetics! 2/2
No need to be sorry at all. It's true that this sorta thing happens to men but now you know to tell your SO nice things from time to time :)
*or whoever you want for that matter. If it's out of the blue to somebody they might take it as hitting on them though.I'm wary of it myself
"is she hitting on me or being kind?" Haha
Makes sense. I know if a single straight woman complemented me I'd wonder at the very least.
Women don't compliment men because 1) men automatically assume we want to get in their pants if we do and
2) women are constantly harassed with "compliments", cat calls and dick picks, we would never want anyone to feel harassed like we
do so we don't do the same to men. The lady that "wolf whistled" felt bad about it because she knows she doesn't like being cat called.
Women routinely compliment each other even other women we don't know. We are just so tired of being treated
like trash from men that we don't even want to talk to you.
You won't know if it's wanted or unwanted until you try. If it's unwanted and continues, it's harassment. The first time shouldn't count.
Same, that's why I always yell "hey nice tits!" anytime I see a woman /s
I had a friend and his wife compliment my haircut (I get 1 every 3-6 months). That was over a month ago. Can't remember any others recently.
Thank you Smurf penis. It means a lot coming from you
Yeah. Which would be a non issue if women were brought up to be assertive and be able feel comfortable saying they're not interested.
I realise now your username is the pen is blue, not penis.
The last time Someone who I wasn't dating complimented my appearance was 4 years ago, she liked my eyes.
Haha it can be penis if you want!
I am 100% certain I can't reproduce that. For one, I can't levitate.
It's a deaf thing. We adapted when we discovered how hard it is to whistle when we can't hear it.
TIL deaf people can levitate
For me its the sudden compliments when we're not being sappy. Like when she just abruptly tells me my eyes are gorgeous while we eat dinner
Aww shucks guys. I'd do a lot more than wolf whistle if you(s) want. ;)
That explanation turned me on xD
I went into a kebab shop In my local town a few years ago and the guy serving me complimented me. Made my week.
I'm straight and have had a gay guy compliment me. It made me very happy.
Isn't it funny how it is always "I like that shirt" and not "I like how you look in that shirt".
Conversely, we've also tricked generations of women into believing they need to look like airbrushed models just to get noticed
Because in the average men-sphere, that means you want to fuck - specifically because positive comments are so rare
I'm not going to say that's right, or makes sense, but that's why.
Its kinda weird. I'd be like 'OHHH <3' if someone did that to me, but if you swap the genders they'd be sitting in a jail cell kek
I didn't know the guy so it wasn't weird.
someone in my group chat once took a pic of my butt as i was leaning on a counter, then sent it to the group chat ^^'
i have been complimented on my veins by blood donor nurse....
personal shows are available, -give number-
See, I always thought I was just being creepy remembering a time 3 weeks ago when that happened. I didn't even consider this possibility. /1
The problem in that regard is that the instances of creepy dudes (which in some cases, not all, may have roots in what that person said) /2
it is a reference to the IT crown, a girl says "i like your glasses" to the main nerd, he, not knowing she was flirting, says "they are not
have corrupted the societal lens with which male actions are viewed. Now, any minor interaction of the sexes MUST be an attempt at a /3
Sexual relationship on the part of the man (a slight exaggeration, perhaps, but you see my overall point). This belief that all men are /4
some sort of disturbed sexually obsessed individuals with no comprehension or expression of feelings or romance is frankly bullshit. /5
Sorry for the length of that rant. TLDR: the guy was right.
No need to apologize. It's not something many people consider. Not even men to be honest.
And yet this makes me remember how I never really get compliment in general.
Lol that sucks. In a more social/fashion oriented environment you wouldn’t have a problem. Working in retail you get compliments a lot.
I work in retail but wear nice clothes (sport coat, dress shirt, dark jeans, and dress shoes) and I get compliments from women pretty often.
Guys gotta put in some more effort. But I also make a point of complimenting men that dress well. Even if I’m not selling to them.
I think I was number 5 in the 2016 show
i meant he could give her a personal show later on
This is I know :) but still, you can only really do it if you have glasses
well I did, not for her, but a couple others
Or better yet, if everyone was more upfront about who they’re interested in instead of the “I like you but I need you to figure that out”
And I see your point, but as a guy, I know guys aren’t always as receptive to rejection as they should be
Is this string of comments not the best? I’m still laughing, keep up the good work guys I’m proud of all of you
I wish to amend my previous statement! (See above)
Ahh i see you must be in Random Mode. This comment string is so old its almost ready for Necromancy.