I might have never felt the pain of a heart being broken but i've also never felt the glow of it being warmed by someone either.
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Step 1: Be Beautiful
Step 2: Recognize Nobody likes you
Find public activities you like, and chat with people. Not to date, just to get better at chatting. Its a slow process, so don't get stop.
Don't worry its over rated...just go out and have fun...before you know it ....you will be having fun
Step 3: move out of your parents basement
Why worry about it? Just let it happen naturally.
Hookers and blow.
There are other forms of caring relationships than just romantic relationships. Life can be very fulfilling without them.
Step 3: Prifit
Have you ever asked someone on a date?
I'll never know the feeling of 207K points... This your job bruh?
I don't know how people meet anyone, friends or lovers, as adults. Almost everyone I know or do things with are coworkers
I will give you the short version that I learned. No one has, or will care.
Fact of life: There's a cover for every pot, if you look hard enough to find it.
There is someone out there for everyone . You will find that someone, no pressure, it will happen. It's not magic, chill and let it happen.
To get different results, you will have to use different methods.
1/2Hey OP I've had 3 relationshits over the past 10 years. Now that I'm single I've found that the one thing that gives me the most peace is
Eh, you kinda get over it after a while. You may also end up adopting several parrots.
Should probably stop showing your cock to kids
2/2 helping people.Get out.Volunteer and be around good people... serving people is healing and ya never know... ya just might meet somebody
wait, i have to get OFFline to meet people? SHIT.
^This. Plus, you're bound to get a few no's with a few yes's. Don't get discouraged when it happens.
Yes you will
There's a lid for every pot. Don't give up. Get involved in activities you like or want to try. Give it time.
25? Dude, I only realised I was an adult at 28. Honestly, don't worry about it. Worry instead about imgurs fukin changes. fml.
I looked through your imgur history. It's your own fault, really.
Get a dog
Meh, better than findng someone who says they love you while still dating and looking for a life partner... completely wasting your time.
Don't worry, they'd just leave you and you'd spent the rest of your life in crippling depression wondering why you ever put your trust in
Use your 207k points as a pick up line
Never get your bread where you get your meat!
Don't worry, it's not all that. Been single for the past 2 years now. Pretty sweet stuff being single. You'll find someone. Be brave!
Eh, you're not missing much. Enjoy your hobbies while you can
Honest question have you tried asking anyone out
Same. Fucking. Same.
Are you ugly, disfigured, fat, poor, remotely located, completely lacking in personality, or some combination of all of the above?
Keep practicing, buddy! Almost there!
Still plenty of time. Put down the video games and porn. Put yourself out there on social media. Ask a girl out and go on an actual date
Well at least your parents like you
"the stranger" is a very versatile thing, but u have to care. Sit on ur hand until it falls asleep, then hold it with ur other hand. Tada!
Look this might seem off-beat but have you ever considered therapy and medication? It took me a very long time to realise my self worth 1/2
Lacking self and confidence are key signs of depression. It might be something you might helpful. Just a thought mate
Aw yeah that's the stuff
Well if It makes you feel better, I have a co-worker that still lives with his mom at 40. No GF/BF in 10 years. See a therapist.
You're probably right
Meetup.com is a good way to meet people. It doesn't have to be "date" like. Just joking a meetup doing something you enjoy
Join not joking. Gah autocorrect
hire a pro..it will take some of the pressure off..if you know what I mean..
Jesus. I was not prepared for this red sock.
Sign up for a dating site.
Mike’s unhappy place
You won't. I went on my first date at 26. Before that, I thought the same way as you. Sometimes a little effort needs to be made.
What is wrong with all of you?
Are you me?
I had my first serious girlfriend at 27 and married her at 28. We going on 11 years next month. You'll probably be fine. Just keep going.
Hey. at least your parents care about you.
The answer is probably no
Op is full of Shit.
I have it on good authority that the answer is no
Try everything you said but minus the parents part.... das me. Yay.
I was gonna say it's a match made in heaven between you and @Fishammer.... but yes, taco tuesday. I mean... I guess it could be both.
He is all of us.
OP wishes OP was full of shit
Tip for chatting, do things you LOVE. If you're happy and comfortable with the activity, it will be easier to talk about with someone new
I have a personality, sadly it's not a good one
You a scat fetishist?
Fuck adulthood man. I wanna remain a kid! Someone invent a body youngifier thingy to make us all kids again!
Are you me?
Don't put the focus on other people liking you. You will be much happier if you get to a point where you like yourself. Your SO will follow
If you do not have access to logistics side of relationships, i.e your own place and job, don't bother with relationships.
I appreciate that thought, man, and yeah that's occurred to me too, therapy is currently out of my budget tho
Also while hurtful, no one will actually care about you other than yourself. Everyone will stick around because they are getting something
What if you already think you are awesome but nobody else agrees?
from you and once it stops they will beat Usain Bolt to the door. Trust me on this and love yourself before you are tainted by the
The average man dies around the age of 76 and for women it’s 81. You have time. Stay positive.
self doubt and hatred from toxic relationships. Love is chemical reaction. Not magical. Sort out your logistics first. Worry later.
25 is still heaps young. Some people get to 80 without ever having been on a date. Love yourself and others will love you, too.
You need a cuddle friend
Sage advice. Segregation of love and work life is the first adult thing they should teach. Get some other hobbies to meet other people.
Not enough exposure. Put yourself out there. And don't go showing your dick around because I said exposure. No one likes dick moves.
Hes already beautiful. I looked through his profile pics t find a selfie. He's at the lowest a 6.5 just from the face. Maybe a 7.5
Are you of larger proportions?
Ive felt similar lately, had long relationships but never felt loved. I have no friends and all I do it work and sit at home.
I'm 34 friend. Either you'll make it, or you'll stop caring. Stick it out.
Well if that's true maybe call the girl who thought you were cute?
Have you tried alcohol?
You don’t need to be beautiful naturally to be attractive. Up your hygiene, go to the gym, research how to make an outfit, learn small talk
Dating or friendship apps, build some confidence
If in a year you don't find anyone, I'll be next to you in your romantic solitude as a platonic friend cause I too, am alone.
Thats a lie..
Hey man, I'm right there with you; just turned 21 and in the same boat. You just got to be hopeful, if not, what else do you got?
i agree...definitely don't get stop
Go out and embarrass yourself a few times, you’ll realize life goes on after rejection. Callous that brain up! Good luck bro, I believe.
If your a dude better yourself and fake confidence. If your a chick just lower your standards and go on tinder.
My brother is 25 and he just got his first girlfriend, and yes, hes still a virgin!
i'm pretty sure figuring out you're an adult isn't the problem here...
Maybe ask? It's a numbers game, kinda like sales
You have parents ? And they care about you? Way to brag..
Perspective. Idk how you feel but I've been in two meaningful relationships that ended with me shutting down for 7 years after
Same, I'm going to be 27 next month and I'm shitting bricks. Never had an emotional interaction with someone before.
get friends. romantic relationships arent the only way to be loved by non family
I'm 23 and I haven't. However, I don't want to just tell myself that things'll work out in time. I'm too comfortable being on my own 1/
I feel your pain, but I'm even older
and chances are, if I don't make a change, I'll be in the same position in another 23 years. 2/2
I’m 37 and have a kid on the way - I’d give my left arm to be 25 and single!
Idk which is worse. The whole better to love and lost thing kinda feels like bs... at least right now
Everyone’s probably said this in one way or another. But you have to put yourself out there. Get rejected, then brush it off. It gets better
Nope. It just may not be the cover you want. There in "lies" the problem. Looking for 10s when you're a 3? That will be a fruitless search
I like you. You deserve more downvotes ;)
You just need to reach out. If you're afraid of rejection you will never meet someone. Just keep reaching out until someone reaches back
well you're not alone. ..on the internet. but hey, at least we can be together alone, though i doubt that will make you(nor me) feel better.
Have you actually made a real effort to make a connection with someone, or are you just sat there autistically screeching without effort?
You should read the book The Game by Neil Strauss. You'll learn what not to do but get in the right mind set
Same, someday though. Hard to find single girls.
Quit watching porn first of all
But what if I already have stop? Should I give stop away?
Awesome advice, it totally works. I meet my wife while volunteering at a music conference!!
considering i consider my own presence to not be of help to other people, that may not be the best advice.
dude just download an earlier version of the app from apk4fun.com
i enjoyed them so much that i'm not even sure what a passion is anymore as now talking(writing) to people is the closest thing i have to one
Did you try to socialize? It goes both ways.
I'm 44 and never been in a relationship. Too
Fortune favors the bold. I'm not a good looking guy, but after being rejected 100 times, having my heart broken 100 times, I got her.
Are you a virgin too? I don't mean that in some sarcastic asshole way. Legitimate question
probably, no, mostly, no, not really, definitely.
You probably shouldn't ask people out when they're on date already
but what if the only thing i truy love to do is talking?
That fucking eternal empty loneliness in your soul. Yep, that’s a good one. Hang in there @dmpeeper I think we’ll be okay. Maybe.
Dude I know something's wrong with me, since Im 28 and havent even had someone Ive wanted to hardly talk to or hang out with.
If you got a pussy just throw it at someone nice and you're set
I'm too picky. That's my problem. I've only dated 6 people since I was 14 and I'm almost 25.
yeah cause you see, i don't really care about that, peopledo care about each other, the majority may be selfish assholes, but if you keep
You are still young. Make a move(respectfully and none aggressive), take a chance, you have our support.
My only socialization is at work and online. I played basketball for a bit but I had a mental breakdown and now I dont.
those away then you won't have to deal with people who only want to use others... if you were still going at school, ast 20 yo people don't
anymore jus t daily friends and people to care about, they want free time and desire money, i had too much of both of those for too long.
Used to be in the same boat. Got my current (and first) GF at 29 by just being myself and not focusing on looking. She asked me out
It's okay, just be hopeful and you'll someone. I'm around the same age too and it can get lonely but it takes time and also going out more
Focus on self improvement. Lose weight, exercise, read, learn a foreign language, musical instrument, take a class, new clothes, grooming
the chaotice nature of the universe. i'l be honest: running away from here and living in the streets off of scraps is a more exciting
prospect to life than be alone for the rest of my life after 8 years doing nothing but playing and talking with strangers on the web alone.
Don’t expect this to fix itself. Love and relationships are like everything else and takes practice. Get out there, git good, good luck!
I got my first girlfriend two years ago when I was 25. Don't worry, you'll find someone who's into you and legit loves you for you.
why does it have to be so systematic? what if one doesn't have hobbies that incite spcialization? wha if they don't drink? what if...
I was going to say the exact same thing
you get the gist, i want to live my life, not that of someone else, fuck this shit honestly, "do this do thar don't do this meanwhile
everyone just cares about their own good as soon as things start even to HINT they're going south, even if tha's a misunderstaning.
Unfortunately I think people want to just fall in love right away but it takes time and effort.
Go with some friends out somewhere where women are, have a few drinks, and expect to say some stupid things.....but try. It’ll help
fuck that, seriously. i just can't stand it anymoreand am witing on impulse, but c'mon, syrely there mus be other eople who just want to
Some of the best advice Iv ever read on this site.
Don't worry, you get used to it around your 40ths...
Dude you're 25 you'll be fine
live what they didn't in their younger life even as adults right? people who don't care about hobbies, jobshouses, but just about having
Try having a relationship and knowing full-well that nobody has ever cared about you as intently as you did about them.
You made me look. He IS handsome! Maybe needs a good self-confidence (not too much not too low: don't over-compensate ).
friends that are aways there to have a good time, too help other, to just feel phisycal contact... it gets too point where one may not want
I'd prefer a time machine, so I can get my younger self away from my family before the damage was done.
In this economy!? Only place affordable now is in the doggy side of town, not worth it.
to kill himself because there's 99% chance death will just be worse meanwhile those we leave behind will also have it worse... fuck this.
Join something of interest: hobby group, martial arts, adult sport league, whatever. Slowly build network, eventually girls are involved.
now excuse me, but i need to sleep and every once in a while a good rant about modern social conformities is required to sleep well.
How can you judge on that of you have never been with anybody yet?
Step 1: find a topic or activity that interests you
Step 2: git gud via practice
Do you have any friends who would hang out with you even if you were flat broke and bringing everybody down? I am sorry but entire human
Step 2.5: while getting gud join the community around said thing
here, enjoy your youth for yourself. trust me. live it for you right now. figure out people and what not as you go. but be you
Me neither, my dude. I'm twenty-eight. I can't really offer any... *tips* on snagging prey, but I can assure you it isn't just you. (1)
Step 3: wow look at all these people with the same interest as you
You got time, kiddo. Just don't get hit by a car.
social system is based upon the exchange of something between participants. You don't get unconditional social status or interaction
Holy shit, he's Gordon Freeman.
Step 4: ask one or more of them if they’d like to do stuff as a group outside this interest
I’m married and still don’t know. You do you man, it’ll be alright
Step 6: Congratulations you’ve acquired friends!
It's just a numbers game. Not everyone is going to "find love". Your life isn't defunct if you're one of those people. If it... (2)
without some sort of exchange happening. Friends provide company and get company. Simple as that. This isn't a bad thing. It is beneficial.
I'm the first person my bf ever dated. We got together when he was 27. Been together 7 years and have a rad baby. It'll be ok!
...happens, it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't. So it goes. Focus on the bridges you have to cross now, man. Don't sweat it. (3)
I was 29 before I met my GF. One of my friends was 42 when he met his wife.
I'm with you. I miss being a kid. Things were so much simpler.
Sorry to hear that. If I ever end up with a time machine, I'll hit you up. But you better have some good explanation for child abduction.
Is your budget low enough to qualify for medicaid? They'll cover at least some mental health services.
Depends on if you're happy with things really.
Get on okcupid, start messaging people. It’ll hurt like hell to get rejected, but its worth the payoff. If I can find a gf there, anyone can
Same here, except I'm 29. I'd tell you it gets better, but sometimes it doesn't. Sorry.
There are dozens of us! Dozens!
I keep waiting but she hasn't knocked on my door, broken into my house, or been chummy w/me online yet. Starting to think she's avoiding me.
Once you become 30 though, you become a Sorceror. You've got that going for you.
Mike this is your fathere here, me and your mother have both agreed that you can't call us "parents" anymore it's embarrassing us.
Pfft, please those are rookie numbers! 27 and counting baby!!!
Easy. Pizza was they best food ever till i had a good steak. He has only had pizza. And thats ok
Didn’t go on a real date til I was 22. We’ve been married for 44 years. If there was someone for me, then there is someone for everyone.
Wayne Gretzky said "You miss 100% of the shots you never take," meaning JUST TAKE A SHOT. Ask someone out. They say no? Ask someone else!
If it helps, I’ve dated dozens of women and I still have no idea what’s it’s like to be cared about by someone else. Only pain and sorrow.
I see this advice a lot. I’m sure this works in cities but you wanna try doing this in a small town where public activities are limited.
Maybe focus on other things than useless internetpoints on some shit site you dont get anything out of.
single room, don't talk back to my kid Taddjen. 1000 a month and you have to help with the cleaning of my smoke covered ceiling.
He is perfectly good looking guy (no homo). He just lacks some self confidence.
In the meantime, get a dog.
Except that one pot that you don't know how the fuck it got there and has no lid.
Too late, the stop is yours forever now.
This post sounded so much like me I had to check my posts to make sure I didn't actually post it and forget
Ha Ha Ha!
Give a hooker $300 and she will pretend to care about you and hopefully isn’t one of your parents.
He posted it on Xmas though which is the only acceptable selfie day right?
I'm 29 and in the exact same situation. You can't give up. It's a slow, painful grind, forcing yourself to go out and be social/normal. :(
My pal Mike is like this. In his mid/upper 40s now and never known that loving touch. It is one of his major sources of depression.
Gay and socially anxious. I know this pain.
I found mine at 28. Engaged now. I was single for 10 years before that.
When you examine whether or not your happy you actually need to think about it carefully and make sure you’re not lying to yourself.
Buy a slave.
I have many different relationships. I'm still young, but the only one I have yet to experience is romantic.
Practice in Reno or Vegas.
Dont be normal, be yourself (well except if you are a psychopath :P). By being yourself you will have more confidence, be relaxed and fun.
And as it turns out people like confident, relaxed and fun to be around so by doing this you just need to socialize and will find someone.
Some Americans sense of bravery and adventurous behavior is lacking. Get some of either one and the doors of love will spread wide open
get tinder, keep swiping right, and pray. worst case scenario, you at least won't die w/o someone caring about you... at least your organs
Shit is a duality my dude. Once that heart breaks. You wished you were never there. From experience
At 25 I wasnt doing that either. Then it all sorta just happend right before 30. Don’t stress over it.
You're still young. Most important thing, don't get desperate. Know your worth and don't accept anyone who treats you as anything less
I was like that! Don’t worry, maybe you don’t fall in love easily! I’m married now and can’t imagine being happier. You’ll find love! X
1. Get out your house 2. Make good friends 3. learn from your friends (on how to be sociable) 4. date, date, date, you always get better.
I’m actually in the same boat as OP now, I’m now at the point where whenever I develop any semblance of feelings for someone I ask. 1/?
Because I’ve developed the attitude worse comes to worse they say no, and life is the same way it’s always been.
In situations like those your best bet is to acquire new hobbies (IMO). Learn about different activities and try em. If not then internet.
Go and exercise!
I'm the same and at some point you just have to accept the fact that you'll be alone. It hurts, but lying doesn't help.
At 22 and being heart broken right now, I wish I could have that lovely feeling back of just not knowing.
the only person you should care about loving you is you
Try online dating, but don't expect ms perfect. Practice a bit, even just talking. You gain experience and learn what you really want
I am in the same boat as you. Though I haven't got a date yet, I did get to talk and practice making me more confident in the real world
It's not important. Living for yourself and finding your own happiness is what is. Everything else will come in time.
You'll likely get a lot of no's and a few yes's, and that's totally fine and normal too.
Love yourself enough to:
A: Improve yourself and lose enough weight to start resembling the person you wish the mirror reflected
30 years + and still single, dont worry.. Its when you get to your 30's have no GF nor friends then you need to start panicking
B: Just fucking love yourself enough to anything, dude. The confidence of being centered in your identity is both a comfort and an overture.
If you're heavily introverted, you need to improve yourself. Work out, do outdoor hobbies, hang out in public spaces.
Well I didn't say you shouldn't be doing other stuff in the mean time to make you happy
Don't not get stop.
Just wait 5 more years and you’ll become a wizard!
When I say 'dissociated' I mean detached from society and having lost/never had the ability to have relationships. Also emotional detachment
25 is a good age, nothing wrong with that. Best to wait for the right one than to force the issue, and things will come naturally
Some advice. If you do get a date, dont talk about "the glow" and how lonely you are/were. Keep it light.
Dating isn't so much of a skill or a particularly useful personal milestone, it's just a thing folks do. Don't beat yourself up too much.
It’s very likely that will happen. Perhaps you lack social skills. You may even have ass-burgers.
Date your parents.
It's hard to prospect outside your class, though. Most folks (even those objects of soulful longing) that you want to date are quietly [...]
battling their own demons and are still figuring out that magic recipe of identity. Nobody knows what they really want from life and [...]
Find some relative for love :D
love until they've lost enough to know what's worth fighting to keep. People are idiots. Your recipe for success will always start with [..]
yeah, I got stop once. It was a tough time for me
the most genuine "you" that you can muster. Shit's hard. You can do it if you're strong enough though.
Doesn’t have to be public even, make friends and talk to people online. I’m a introvert a lot of girls play games now a days too.
I’m 28.... just realised recently
Don't sweat the small stuff. There are a metric shit ton of peeps in this world. You'll find that someone someday. You are plenty young yet.
Had many girlfriends, been married, and have kids.. Me either.
you are only 25, it'll happen when you are ready, not when you think you are ready. just don't rush into anything or it could end badly
I feel like the older you are with no experience the harder it becomes to ask someone, yes or no?
29 about to be 30 here. I have a close knit group of friends that live around the world so we get together once in a while.
Some days are harder than others. You are also younger than I am. Don't give up. Go out and play and find others who want to play with you.
Think back to what it was like to make friends as a kid. It can be as simple as you both like mtg and play it every week at a bar.
Mine you, this is advise from a shut in but it is something I want to work on when not focusing on jobs and dealing with depression.
im 37 gay and have been in one relationship and it was emotionally abusive. i've pretty much given up. :/
Being okay and happy with yourself is important yes, but never having social contact physically or mentally in any meaningful way is...
really crippling and as you said, can be something that promotes depression or keeping it alive. Sadly, people who love you just don't ...
come out of nowhere just because.
The positive here is that you had a loving upbringing.
Many no’s later, I have accepted my fate. I am to die alone on the hamster wheel that is my work/commute life.
So you parents cared for you and you still complain?
Are you ignorant and stupid? If no then i care about you!
You're still relatively young, but old enough that you should get a move on. Tinder and such.
heyyy broke 30 and still counting here! People are trouble. internet is full of beautiful women and I've my trusty right hand.
You haven't missed much, dating before 25 is pretty much a shitshow anyways. Keep working on yourself and pursue group hobbies.
35 son. You'll get used to it.
We don't NEED reaction gifs. We HAVE reaction gifs. FUUUU *flips imgur*
My first kiss was at 28, lost virginity a week later. There is hope yet
For starters, shut off your computer and stop expecting to find friends on Imgur. Join a church or a terrorist group. And stop whining.
It doesnt have to hurt. Think of it as weeding out the incompatible. The goal isn't to find any girl, it's to find someone you actually like
How does this happen?
JFC another attention-seeking sob story.
That can be challenging when you don't have any hobbies/interests, just distractions.
Better get used to it. It can destroy you, and at your age, chances of turning around are low at best. Been there.
Not missing much. It can be great, but usually isn't worth it.
"Just be yourself. No, not like that, though"
If you expect things to "just happen", they won't. Either you can make them happen, or you can't.
Fuck you. I used to believe this crap for years, and now I'm way past the point of no return. No, it DOES NOT happen naturally.
Well at least your parents care for you... you've got that over me!
Good general advice for life too
The first three girls I ever asked out said no. Now I'm a dysfunctional and married adult
Find what areas specifically you feel you are lacking, then google what are the best books on those topics. Small steps. Dont give up.
Same here my man
Do the no internet, no games 30 day challange, also no PMO during those days. Hard to do it but gives some results.
I'm 35 and only had a couple girl friends "in person." there are a lot of things I haven't and I definitely feel I might die first
Don't worry OP! I was 25 before I even touched a girl. Moving out and using dating sites did the trick for me. Before that my plan was 1/?
To be torn apart by wolves in a ditch as an old virgin man. It seemed right. Just be honest with any prospective partners. Don't pretend 2/?
To be some kind of sexpert.
Your 20's are literally meant for identifying who you are going to be. Also you will never meet someone without trying.
Plot twist op is a girl
Got my first date, kiss, sex and gf with 26. So don't worry about it.
Go to Vegas and see a pro, or get a local escort. Knock one down and take away the awkwardness.
You could jump ship & head to a city.
You develop relationships with others based on habits you build over time. Only way to fix it is to break out of your comfort zone.
So, what are you gonna DO about it?
Um, I'm in the same boat. I feel for you.
I hear ya man I'm 25 and slept with around 30 women nothing meaningful ever. Kinda sucks but I'm partial to blame :/
Find new hobbies! There is so much to do in the world. Go learn how to cook (a new kitchen), extreme ironing, leatherwork, debate, play harp
Heart Broken when you're deeply in love = many shards of glass being pushed into your chest slowly. You can always feel it. Feelsbadman.
I'm 25 as well and we both have plenty of time! Keep your head up OP. You'll get there.
27 before i got my first real girlfriend,before that i was just always a good friend.My own fault for not taking the jump since a fewlikedme
Manage till you're 30 and become a wizard
Has anyone recommending this book actually read it? It's not a manual, it's a story (and not a very good one).
Just go trade it in at the Stopstop.
But I don't like going out, drinking or talking.
Of course not. You still have to put the effort in, and it helps if you are happy with yourself. It is going to be very difficult to get to
any meaningful level of contact if you think you're useless and repellent. Depression makes these feelings worse I know, but if you really
feel that a relationship like that is important, then you need to work for it.
Rent a whore.
Hey least your parents loved you.
I expect OP loves themselves on a regular basis and it hasn't worked for them so far.
The worry will pass, friend. Eventually you'll just go numb and live life on auto-pilot like me. Not the worst outcome tbh.
We're how many years into the 21st century and people still accuse each other of living in basements? Does anyone even HAVE them any more?
33 almost 34 here and in the same situation. Sort of. Apathy is a good friend. That and video games and porn.
I love the ironic tag.
There's also volunteering. I've met some nice people volunteering for local music/theatre festivals, plus free shows.
I think, and now I'm no expert, but I might have found the problem.
Im 26 this year and it's the first time I fell in love, before I met him I always thought I'm gonna grow old and die alone,don't give up op!
I think the trick is to be an arsehole. If you hate things aggressively enough, sooner or later someone will mistake that for confidence.
Are you me?
Constant fear of losing him comes along tho, due to anxiety.
I am my BF's first GF. We met when we were 27. There is hope.
Step 1: make her laugh
Friend of mine remained virgin till 26. That was 2 years ago. Now hes engaged
This is bad advice for someone who needs motivation to change their habits.
Experience makes it easier, but the anxiety of trying without any prior experience makes it harder later
I'll hold your hand, O.P.
32, same deal. =/ Granted, I have/had a huge emotional wall due to nasty experiences but still, I definitely know what the worry feels like.
Wish I never had a GF. You may be lucky.
How and where can I find these activities?
Where can I find these "public activities"
Are you white, and a job that pays well? Go to a South East Asian country. They will love you long time.
33 and in the same boat, I am so socially inept 90% that I usually don’t talk unless I have to
Went on a few dates last month with a guy in his 30s who, it turns out, had never been on a date before. He seemed fine. You will be too!
What if i hate public activities?
55 more years to go!
personalities aren't assigned, they're shaped by life experiences. If you truly think your personality is not good, go get some good exp
IF YOU OR A LOVED ONE HAS BEEN DIAGNOSED WITH MESOTHELIOMA YOU MAY BE ENTITLED TO A CASH COMPENSATION
Try jacking off to animal porn
Step 3: Move out of your parents hover-room.
You definately are
I was in the same boat until just last night. We held hands and then made out in her car. It gets better but you gotta put in the effort
Oh, to be young again.
Go places, meet people, that's how dates happen. Maybe not on the first or second try, but that's how it goes. For real.
Step 2: Be attractive.
I'm 31 and just went on my first date a few weeks ago. I think it's better to learn to talk to people and if you hit it off ask them out.
Go to some class, don't expect to go out with someone you like. Give someone else a chance (and you'll be giving one to yourself too).
I just mean that I have a lot to learn making friends and how to socialize outside of getting girls to say no to dates.
fuck people. they suck anyways
Go outside. Ask someone out. Stop saying you have a shit personality. Seriously, you sound like my ex (who was also a virgin at your age).
ONE OF US!
Forget everything you know. Study the classics. By that I mean real stories of people doing incredible things. 1/3
I know what your going through,I started dating a guy this year at 31. So year don’t feel bad we all have our time.
2/3 Next take steps to shape your body into an instrument that allows you to explore the world, nothing is off the table. 3/3
3/3 once you are capable of doing things you only dreamed of, you will be attractive to so many people, it will be a life filled with adore.
Such great advice but I think at 25 you have creating almost an addiction to loneliness that can only be overcome with a mountain of a goal.
Otherwise its easy to slip back into the comfortable. So I say, do not even try to find a mate, find a passion that will re-shape your life
That will reshape your body. That will focus your attitude, and make everything seem small in comparison. Nothing achieves greatness better.
and nothing is more attractive than greatness, big and small.
I don’t know if you are like hideously ugly or something hut just finding a date shouldn’t be too hard.
Just the other day I told my sister if it wasn't for sex and vodka, I'd revert back to a childhood state
Same, it's bullshit relying on luck and works when you keep meeting new faces. For all the others, got to be pro-active.
My wife was my first and only girlfriend. We met when we we're 27. She was also my first kiss. When its right, it'll just happen.
How much do you care about looks?
I'm about to be 30 myself, still no girlfriend.
Relationships will leave you empty and broken. Just be good to yourself because no one else will.
I was 31 before I had the courage to do something about it, still haven't been on a classic date, met girls playing football and volleyball
I've been in several long relationships and I still worry the same as you my dude.
not related to a subject but one time i dated a girl who only went out to me becasue i was explicitly asking for 8 months. date was shit.
I'm willing to hold your hand and pretend to like you. Even though i'm a guy, no homo. c:
Chances are we will, don't worry you're not alone
This. And Be. Yourself. Don’t worry what others may be thinking (‘cause they probably aren’t). The right one will like you for who you are.
Oh 25, boo fucking hoo. You're practically still a baby. Try getting off the computer and meeting people.
You’re certainly not going to die alone - sometimes meeting the right person or even the few wrong people first can take awhile. (1/2)
There’s no guide to how old you’re meant to meet “the one” some of us just do it really early. Best of luck!!
Well, with that attitude...
You’re not missing anything. Dogs are better friends. Adopt a dog.
So do something about it? Telling a bunch of strangers on the internet won't help.
I'll hold your hand!
Meetup is pretty good. I found a local choir through that.
I'm good with giving up those. But, then, I don't have either of them to begin with anyway. :V
I'm 20. I'll be making this same post in 5 years too.
You can go on speed dating, for example? It`s always fun. Or you can change something about yourself. Maybe that is hindering you.
...that and sex preferably sex before marriage to get experience. Dont use porn as a baseline. Jus dont
That sounds like work.
I'm 28, have a kid, a fiance, a house and two dogs. I still don't identify as an adult.
Adopt an extrovert. They'll help you meet people.
If anyone needs to talk you can message me. :) I like to listen and cheer people up. :3
There is a lid for every pot my friend. Don’t give up hope and get out of your comfort zone. Ask out the next girl you find pretty
People are overrated. Adopt an animal.
Make good honest friends first. Put sex on hold. Hard to do, I know. But being a good friend and socializing works best long term.
You Australian? The only person ive known to say “heaps” was Australian
You Australian? The only person ive known to say “heaps” was Australian
Same here. I am 31 and nada so far.
Found the love of my life at 29 in the most random of places. Life is random, all you can do is be the best 'yourself' you can be.
I know this sounds lame but have you tried singles events. Met my wife at speed dating.
25.... oh my sweet summer child...
This is true for women too, you WILL get nos
Go outside and start talkin to some women. They're everywhere.. Cuz you're probably not going to find a date on imgur.
I was in the same boat - I didn't find someone until I dug myself out of depression and found a partner doing a social activity.
I'm 37 and in the same boat. I think it's best to avoid women, it's too hazardous.
Does a Doctor / Nurse count?
I was 28 when I had my first kiss. I'm engaged to her now!
I'll hold your hand, but you have to ask.
It's better to never be loved than to have loved at all.
I volunteer,I have found that is a good way to meet GOOD caring people.
Get a shower. Get a haircut. Clean youself up. If you havent had someone at this age. You need to step up your ballgame. Be the guy/girl 1/2
2/2 you want your SO to be
U really arent missing much. People are assholes and not worth the time. Buy a pocket pussy, lube, and condoms. All the benefits of a 1/
Meet up is a good app. It lists all sorts of interesting activities in your area. Do something you've never done.
Relationship with none of the bullshit that is other humans.
The strange pot which somehow ended in the backyard, rusty with chipped edges and slightly deformed over the years.
Had my first actual date at the age of 26, so you've got one more year until you're a bigger loser than me!
What if I hate public and activities?
In the current legal climate, this will be more common. Relationships are weaponized. It's an extremely risky thing to do.
even so, in small cities there are things to do and places to meet people.
Dates won't just fall into your lap, you need to make them happen.
Then accept that you won't have friends or relationships. (I know you're not the OP)
you're 25. it will be okay, you have time.
Absolutely no way. Being an adult is awesome. Couldn't wait. No way I'd go back.
holla atcha gurl
23 here, and fuck that post hit home...
done, whats step 4?
My older son is a huge introvert despite my efforts to encourage him to be social. I worry this is in his future.
Get out and meet 3k people. You will find a handful you like I promise.
@op i was almost 30 when my beloved was found....
Get off your computer and join in with some real activities. Ball room dancing, tennis, hiking club, photography club etc...
I want to retire in a small cheap CoL midwest town some day, live minimalistically. I figured joining a church would be the way to go.
I'm not even religious, but acting like I am is a small price to pay for EZ mode social events, making friends with (generally) nice people.
Username checks out...
Yup he's a good lookin' dude. @OP if I can get a woman (married) you can too. Just gotta find a way to meet someone. Bars, church, online
Never cried ?
dating, hobbies that involve other people. You'll do good my dude.
Important distinction I suppose.
I met my wife when I joined a local photography club. There's good advice below in the comments. Don't get stop!
Time to lower those standards to zero.
...have we met already?..
I was in a similar boat at 25, now at 40 i'm in a 10 yr relationship with a kid and 3 stepkids. Dont abandon hope!
Do other countries not say heaps? My mind is blown. We say it all the time...
Thanks man, I appreciate that
But a basement downtown costs 30K$...
300* (why doesn't imgur allow for editing posts?)
Are you both me?
Most of us just stop caring.
Many of my memes and gifs have levels of untruth in them, this makes it harder for real life people to recognize me on here
She definitely got stop.
Valid question tho
That's when you get start
RsdNation. It's about "picking up girls" but it really is about personal development and becoming an amazing men. Or women.
Getting laid is going to be a bitch and a half there tho
What does he enjoy doing in his spare time?
They didn't exactly warm my heart.... and their hands were cold..
It might not be to your liking, but there are a lot of people you can look into on YouTube. Brendon burchard. Dr Aziz Gazipura.
I was a foster home for a cat rescue. I checked this box years ago lol
Comfortzonecrusher.com is having a sale on their products. Just know life can be better, and you can learn to be social and improve ur life.
Don't! People will go through your post history and find the ONE selfie you posted and forgot about last Christmas! This post was a mistake!
I'm kidding, everyone has actually been super nice and supportive
Learn that your comfort zone never reaps rewards.
I went on my first date at 25 through a site called geek 2 geek. Before, I had assumed I just didn’t get to do those things. I wish you well
work on your physique.
I work with someone who had his first kiss at 41, 2 years on he's married and starting a family. The world is full of late bloomers
Lower your standards, try online dating, and quit jerking it so much. Young guys beat it literally into submission.
Hmm, I'm white and have a job that pays...some. close enough?
Did I get drunk and write this and forget?
I'd love to do that (also thank you) however I have anxiety that means I care quite a lot what others think..
... Are you about to die? Because 25 is young.
You sobbed? Am I that sad?
With little to no effort on my part, just happened naturally
Social anxiety and a 100% failure rate has left me discouraged. I stopped caring years ago, so I'm fine with it.
The answer has been right in front of me the whole time!
I'm only gonna post this to you here so no one can accuse me of bragging but I actually work in the public, my hobby is nature photography /
Put yourself out there and let your fear of dying alone overpower your fear of rejection.
/ and I do work out, at my peak I was doing 300 push up and 300 sit ups every day for 2 years... being alone gives you a lot of free time
Checkout meetups around you. It’s a cool networking tool but also potential way to find a relationship
Step 1 - get hobby. Step 2 - invest unhealthy amounts of money into that hobby. Step 3 - forget about the need for human contact.
Hey man I have a lot of these shiny little points! I can't give them up now!
But tell me - do you have a job? A job that pays not only bills but leaves you money to spend?
Momma said women are the devil.
Remember to be step 1
Hey I put a lot of effort into that screeching
I'm 37 and in the same boat. My advice is don't wait to be my age. It's over for me, but you still have time to get off this road.
We all care!
How would I not be a virgin when I said I haven't even held hands with someone?
Baby at this point I'm whatever fetishist you want me to be
Got married young, old now, I'm happy but sometimes I wish I'd waited and enjoyed my youth a little more. So appreciate what you have.
Well me neither, I'm 25 and never been on a date or had a relationship, but I'm trying to wait for the right person and not fuck up.
You live near SF?
Holding hands is actually kind of neat and way more stressful than straight up getting naked with someone.
Or else you end up with child support and a bunch of kids ya not allowed to see. Or you end up getting cheated on with a broken heart.
I've had chances and I've had opportunities but for personal reasons and I want to wait until I get my life together I couldn't deal.
Do not feel like anybody's rushing you, Society is not your supervisor, and you don't owe anybody anything. And trust me Savor your solitude
Get hookers. They're easy to find and cheaper in the long run. But they can honestly teach you a lot about talking to women if you ask
I met my ex-husband when we were both 25. He had never been on a date before, never had a kiss...nothing. So, it is possible!
40 years alone and going strong. Beer is my wife at this point.
Join the Navy. Great place to meet people and travel on the governments dime.
For example I had a chance at a date, I said no, a week later she found out she was pregnant from some other guy that beat her. Dodged.
I'm going to wait until I have a much better job, much easier life, and then I can give somebody what they need. The attention they deserve.
I met my wife through friends from a weekly movie night that one of my best friends used to host. Met so many mutual friends that way too.
You're 25, death is a long way off, plenty of time for the good stuff
Follow the advice so many people are giving you, get out and do something you enjoy
Get involved in a community or try online dating. Worked for me.
Make sure it's a small town with some life in it. Many small Midwest towns are dying shells. One town might still be a viable farming hub 1/
@dmpeeper What nobody will tell you (exceptions apply), is that you're not supposed to be comfortable all the time. I've seen a lot of 1/
while the next one may be a rural ghetto with a few elderly hold outs and crackheads looking for ultra cheap housing. It's really sad. 2/2
people who confuse nervousness (butterflies in stomach) with a feeling of being in danger. If you can't find a way to direct yourself 2/
It’s perfectly fine to be alone if that’s what you want. However, speaking as someone who is starting to see what it’s like to age, it’s
towards the kinds of setups/situations where you'll wind up talking to potential BF/GFs, it's unlikely that someone will set things up 3/
"Hey, would you like to grab dinner or drinks sometime?" 50% chance of getting a date out of it!
You don't have to hold hands with someone to have sex with them.
Difficult to go through life alone when you get older and you start getting health problems, more people around you dying, etc. Having
for you instead. I can't stress enough that 'practice makes perfect' here so-to-speak. The more you try, the less anxious you'll become. 4/4
I'm not sure the best solution for the lack of relationships is to take a trip to Whores-R-us and get you a discounted blue waffle.
Love and support from a committed partner is really what makes a relationship worth it. You aren’t going to be young forever. The longer
To be fair I have a similar position and I tried a therapist, made me feel more worthless than before. Wasted my money
You wait, the much harder it will be to find a relationship. That said, you should focus on yourself & going out to do things you like.
Those are rookie numbers.
What if he is just awk as fuck?
People often meet others this way (by accident). Whatever you do, don’t trap yourself in a comfort bubble.
My brother is 33 and getting married in 2 weeks if he can get married anyone can
Well do you think youll regret getting turned down more or never asking Bet youll feel better even in rejection just having the balls to ask
Great advice. it's all about practicing your soft skills, becoming a better conversationalist by being around people. Join a club!
Not sure we're going to classify that as a good rant but enjoy your sleep.
Yes. This exactly. Was brutally hard for me, but what a life changer. Get comfortable talking to strangers, everything flows form there.
To help you start, ask people about themselves, they drive the conversation forward, and you don't have to talk about yourself. Easier.
From personal experience, don't use OKC, most of the people on there are bots. Also, prepare for the ones that are not to be polyamorous aft
Someone weird enough to like them is probably going to turn up for most people, but you better not set your standards too high.
im married and the spark has gone, im starting to think about calling it, if anything its just name calling and laughs when i show affection
Better be alone.I don't want to be alone and ended with some crazy ones
I have a 39 year old friend who never got his shit together enough to even consider dating. You have time. It will happen if you work for it
Make effort to change/better yourself in ways you know you need to, do things that let you meet people, and be patient.
Um, actually...DNA evidence suggests that only about 40% of men that ever lived got to pass on their genes, as opposed to about 80% of /1
women. Some people are just too unattractive or otherwise incapable of finding a partner. Pretty sure that's not the case for op, though. /2
u got cared about by ur parents?
Yep but i sorta just gave up fuck it
I feel like getting to age 80 without ever going on a date pretty much means youre gonna die without ever going on one at that point.
I have found my love when I was 28. Don't surrender
nigga you 25, that ain't even close to being old. I know folks 2ho didn't smash till mid late 30s
Get a hooker.
I feel ya man, gonna be 26 by august and have never had a girlfriend before, i told myself i would find someone by 30, but now i dunno
rather than blow smoke up your arse and say it'll happen, i'll say it might not. love and life is hard. instead, try to value yourself 1/2
without the validation of thinking that someone needs to be romantically involved with you to make life complete. it's not the be all. 2/2
My mother was 54 before she fell in love. Shouldn't take you that long lol
Play intramural sports, go hiking on popular trails, go to pop up community beer gardens, go to the mall with the intention of starting 1/2
Conversations with random people - men or women it doesn’t matter. Eventually you become more comfortable and people are attracted to that
I didn't even date anyone until I was 26 after I moved to a new state, it's honestly never too late and being 30 now I feel that it even
was somewhat beneficial that I didn't experience attachment until I was more of an adult, my current relationship has been incredible
enjoyable. I suffered the same fears as you, but it will be special and you can relish the opportunity to do all those things when you do
find someone, just don't be afraid to fail. :)
Start talking to people, make small talk. Don’t worry about dating yet, just make friends.
Might be of little condolence but thats better then spending years with someone only to find they never loved you.
don't stress it. relationships are overrated
Love the tag
If it hasn't happened by 25, it's probably not going to happen after. It might, but don't hold your breath.
I'm sorry. You're twenty-five. You're like my five-year-old. "I'm never going to..." Live your life. Love it. Someone will like that.
For fucks sakes get a hooker. It's like an exhibition game before the regular season starts.
My bf was in the same boat until 29, now we are inseparable and dizzy in love. It'll happen 100%
I'm 37, married with kids. This never changes...
It’s overrated. I’d rather be alone. My current wife “found” me.
jesus, why you think its over ? you are not 97.. just go out, try new things, met new people..
Fitness, hygiene, dress, and location. Get fit, don't smell, wear respectable attire, and get out of the hose and into places with people.
Step 2: Don't be ugly.
Who? Monks in Himalayan monastery?
"Never held someone's hand that liked me" umm so you just creepily held someone who didn't like you hand?
Look at the bright side, you are in the majority. Only about 40% of all men that have ever lived have left a genetic legacy.
Been on dates and would hold hand just to have them pull away and let me tell u it's enough not to even try with anyone else ever again
Hey, you have it better than me. Parent's don't give a fuck about me and I'm 28.
If you have long hair. . . Don’t.
Dating sites, worked for me...
Start working on yourself. Exercise, build selfconfidence. Have good hygiene and dress attractively. Don't act desperate, turnoff for girls
Sometimes you don't make a very good connection. I've had a few that were downright bad and only one that I clicked with. (over 10 years)
I can't stand to be a relationship more than a few weeks or months, get bored easy. think I'm better off single. It's a double edge sword
make sure you dive heart first at ANY sign of flirting, surely that wont go badly. just wait and it will happen. keep growing as a person.
Turning 24 in a couple months, never had a GF, but stories like this give me hope. :)
I'm 45 with a grandkid. My parents are adults. I'm just going through the motions.
I'm in the same boat. We've got time.
If you go downtown and get rejected by 20 girls before you end up bringing a girl home did you still get laid? Damn right you did.
I was 25 when I had my first relationship. All is not lost. Just go do cool stuff and talk to people. It will come
Online dating. Gets you comfortable talking to someone and be honest. You'd be surprised how easy it is.
Be glad you're loved by your parents.
Hard but not impossible. Don’t give up op :)
So let's go on a date
I’m almost 40, and the same… Except for the parents, they pretty much seemed to think of me as a liability for the most part.
well.. i think we might have found part of the problem here. if you are male, im sorry, but you'll have be the one to take the risk and ask.
Dogs can help you meet girls too and create an easy topic of conversation to start with.
Not Okcupid! Go with a service that costs money, like Match. I tried a few and found the most normal people to be on match.
Get a dog and meet people at dog parks. It works. Good luck.
@op I feel with you i had one female friend who gave me a hug once which i felt was not in a pressured situation for her to hug me
You have to willing to risk rejection and pain.
Tell that to the Chinese and their woman crisis.
You have so many fake internet points though. Isn’t that fulfilling?
Get a hooker for practice
I was 34 when it happened for me.
Well the good news is that now that you're internet famous I'd totally fuck you.
They aren't necessary for everyone. Depending on how generally things are categorized, most people don't experience many relationship types.
At least your parents love you. Not everyone has that. The future may hold romantic love for you, but at least you have known familial love.
One word gym
Best advice I can give is to learn how to be the best possible spouse, and only start looking for one after *you* have it down cold.
Same - 30 going on 31.... apparently it's kinda normal. Being solo has it's perks.
Let it happen naturally? what kind of fairy world do you live in?
Stopped what little dating I did in my 20s to focus on career and the next thing I know I'm 46. Totally out of sync with my peers. It sucks.
But Asbestos is safe now.
You have control over your life, if you really want it then you will work at it.
What do you think your problem is? Your personality? Looks? Confidence?
How about you hum a 2 minute song without taking a breath?
In all honesty, having your heart broken is terrible. I think I would rather go with the latter
Been a few laps around that track too
One day you'll have a broken heart and remember these good old days....
Yes, just ignore the societal pressure, cultural conventions and the Biological imperative, everything will be fine
True, but not near as many.
I think I hit that point today. I guess you either have it or you don't.
Several months without a match have taught me that Tinder doesn't work for everyone.
Easy, just kidnap women from other countr- oh wait
I think the harsh reality is that DOES happen naturally, just not for people like us. :(
You have time OP. I was 29 when I started dating. I dated without expectations, met a few nice women. Every date was practice. Merried now.
That's going to be me someday.
You're going to have to force it if you can. I was in the same situation and now I'm a 22 year old who can't function socially and will...
likely die alone.
Ahhh good, I thought I was a freak or something else entirely un-datable.
Plenty of fish dating site. Full of chicks. Or try tinder.
I'm my boyfriend's first girlfriend. We were 26 when we started dating. He's an amazing human being and I'm the happiest I've ever been.-
That’s very difficult to do if you live month to month in one of the poorest areas of your country
-My advice: Work on building deep friendships and being complete single. Also learn how to be a good person to date. That's what he did.
You probably will. At least you have Imgur.
Hobbies in my town range from going to the handful of local bars or the handful of local pubs. Genuinely nothing to offer 4 sports/arts etc
Work on yourself. Focus on diet, exercise, presentation. If you're single you got time. Make an effort.
I may only be a teen, but i still know the feel.
At least you won't die without knowing the love of parents...
Somewhere, an incel board is missing a moderator.
You can find a partner without ever going on a date.
I'm my gf's first bf, she was 28 when we met. She's wonderful. Sometimes people don't notice the good ones. Be patient and open-hearted
The bear is a lie! ...shit, just look at @op account people.
I'm largely content, though I know having a girlfriend would be great. However, I KNOW that I'll regret it in 20 years if I do nothing.
Judge which part? I'm just picturing myself in a few decades, middle-aged and lonely, regretful that I didn't give it a shot sooner.
Could we get some kind of imgur dating thing going?
On the plus side, I have a lot less baggage and no alimony payments unlike many of my peers. Gotta find that silver lining.
Bruh I'm 20 and still look for someone that just accepts me, not even liking, just accepting
Or did stop got her?
Don't listen to imgur weiners normalising your unusual situation, but don't be embarassed either. Take up a social hobby, try online dating
I have a friend like this he just turned 23 today and I want to help him.but it's hard to get him out of the house
I'm 23 now and found my first real girlfriend last year via online dating. Your dreams can come true really quickly . 1/2
2/2 Just don't be afraid when the opportunity comes.
Also, make sure you’re not coming up with excuses to not date anyone. Take a chance, as long as they’re reasonable.
I know it seems everyone else has it together by 25 but they don’t. You have years to go. In the meantime enjoy your life.
I'm 21 and same but I know that I always her a nervous breakdown whenever I'm around people I find even midly attractive so guess I'm fucked
28 and I gave up bothering or caring about such things anymore. Sometimes it creeps into my thoughts but very rarely.
Are you out and doing things? I find the best way to meet people (for dating or just friendships) is doing group activities.
Sounds like a simple decision then, no? To just try it out since there wont be anything to lose?
I just got my first girlfriend at 28 a couple months ago. Took me 4 years actively looking. Keep your options open, and seize opportunities.
Pffft, I'm 30 and I've made my peace with it.
I learned to do that by ubering, brought my score up and i can start a conversation with anyone about anything.
Stop ded her.
You might need to check your ego levels. Find someone you respect and ask for honest feedback on how to improve yourself. Be open to change
I'd sit on it.
Or know their name
did the ball go?
The first one is a throw away, so go and break the seal!
Dont worry..the heart break of betrayal isnt worth it.
You probably could have given this same advice without the "I've had 3 relationships over the past 10 years part." Just saying
I gave up looking for a girlfriend just before Christmas. Decided I wanted to focus on studies and work. 2 months later 1/2
I went into a relationship with a beautiful girl. She is the light of life now
Actual step 1: Be Confident. Literally more important than anything else (looks included)
This is literally me except I'm 24
Just don't think about it, as long as you don't try as well as get out and do shit, it'll happen eventually
Hahaha, look at Rico Suave over here, with his 50% chance. I'
(prematurely entered) I'm married, and I don't even have 50% chance of getting a date with her.
29 and the same boat
You still have your whole life ahead of you. Don't worry too much about it.
(I'm married so it's not an issue for me)
For goodness sake, get off your computer and go somewhere there are people. That's one way you can start this ball rolling.
Implying there's anything like that
how'd that career work out, do you also have bags of money?
I would, Because i know people can have bad days or have a mentality that leads them to that, till it gets to an unbearable point, if i like
Someone, I don't care if they're broke or negative, in fact, i just want to be even more with them because i don't want such trifling
Matters be the end of a relationship, or worse, a life.
I'm 42. Still have no one. It gets easier to deal with.
My wife still says no
You'll get there don't worry about it too much. Casual conversations, feeling confident in yourself, and a touch of flirting go a long way.
Don't over complicate it.
Theres literally 2-3 users on here who are hitting 30 or 40 who feel the same way.
I only asked one girl out. We've been married 27 years (She said yes)
Way ahead of you ;-)
Get a hooker!
I'm in a very similar boat.
I care about you, and I'm not your parent
American here. We say heaps in the south. At least in my area, that is.
Speaking as someone who's had social anxiety for a long time, you have to put yourself out there in order to improve. They're called social
SKILLS after all
Yeah, I'm 38 and I pretty much stopped caring. I just have literally no interest in relationships any more, lol.
You poor thing, you are probably right :(
Pro Tip: Care for yourself first, the rest will follow.
honestly though, hiring an escort to gain some experience is not a crazy idea. escorts service lots of people in your boat.
stop beeing worried. if it happens it happens. first time i fell in love it was one of my close friends and i didnt realised it for weeks
I was 25 when I lost my virginity, dont sweat it. Many girls finds it a plus dating a guy who hasn't been with many girls.
Hit the gym and pick up swing or salsa dancing.
OOOOoooooohhhhh. Well there go my friday night plans.
Are you ugly?
Well mate, I declare you to be a great guy. Keep up the good work. If only you weren't the minority and everyone felt the same way...
Advice from a fellow social invalid: don't listen to the imgur therapists. Call your insurance company and am then to give you a real one.
35 and the most I got was groped on the ass once by a guy I didn’t realize was hitting on me. I try but I’m too socially awkward. :D
A trained therapist can help you change your social habits better than any online forum can.
hookers, bro, hookers.
You are not alone with this.
Don’t do that, just get super physically fit. Someone will find you!
Wait till you're 38 and in the same situation. It sucks.
Don't listen to all these "some people never find someone" people. Do something stupid that you wouldn't normally do. That always works.
Do what you want, but it screws up careers if there is trouble in romance
Same here, and I don't give a fuck. It has to just happen is the way I see it.
Your public library probably has a bunch of clubs and activities
Im 24... I could use some advice too
Focus on yourself. Improve yourself. Do what makes you happy. Relationships will happen naturally.
Pushing 35 here...this kid is worried .. Lmao.
I met my gf when she was 25 so don't you dare give up hope.
Get more stop. One can never have too much.
Work on yourself. Get in shape, -> comes confidence -> win
65 year old friend with health problems in a retiree/nursing home. 85 year old gal propositioned him, didn't want to die a virgin. Didn't.
Took me till 26, there is always time. Be a kind person, talk to people like they are people and treat them with respect, it will work out.
Good and yes
I see no reason to be worried.
I had the opposite experience. I paid for Match and found only 2-3 people *total* vs dozens on okc. May depend on your location.
Experiences differ. Personally, I've decided dating will never be worth it after the experiences I've had. Don't tear yourself up.
I am already prepared to be alone for the rest of my life
Are you me?
I was 22 and a half when I started dating.
Chatting is easy. Waiting for a woman to give any, any sign at all that she might be into you? Well, good luck with that.
Please don't skip over the most important parts of your story.
Honestly, you need to focus on yourself and figure out who you are. Once you’re comfortable with that - you’re golden.
I dated a male virgin for awhile, it was no biggie ( we broke up due to distance). 1/2
Just be honest with the girl after a first date so she doesn’t pressure you or wonder why you aren’t making the first move.
I'm seeing a 30 year old guy who hadn't dated or been with a girl in FIVE years. I'm totally smitten with him and he's just the best.
I’m 36 and not married yet, it’s not over for you. You just haven’t met the right person. It will happen when you least expect it
Just go to public places... get drunk and hang out with strangers to you befriend someone
Lol... at least it was a cute pic
Try making friends to meet other people. And I know it’s always laughed at, but girls will not always friend zone guys
Get a Pug . Woman love these dogs. They want to pet them and ask you questions about them.
Practice by going out with friends more
I got a yes then dumped 6 hours later via text twice
Some people are loners and introverts. I’m an ambivert, but I love my peaceful “me” time. Find a common interest with others.
What caused the breakdown?
I'm in a similar situation. Started working out earlier this week. At the very least, I can be a butterface.
Don't be a creep, be cool. You got this tiger
I don't want to offend, but this really isn't as inspiring as you appear to think it is.
I was single until 24, then suddenly had a great girl for the first time ever. Keep the optimism, keep trying.
Hey, OP, I didn't go in a first date until I was 26. A lot of people these days don't find love until their 30s or 40s.
Just don't die a virgin , their are a lot of terrorists waiting for you up there.
It'll happen, you won't see it coming, and you likely will be six months in wondering how tf you ended up here.
Because you're pretty.
Same, 26 though, would be fine if I focused on myself/ my career. Alas I am still broke, stuck in a dead end job, suicidal.
Same here, i just stopped caring lol
Never understood nonverbal communication. Don't worry, you'll probably still have a good life after you give up.
Quit being a little bitch, Get off the internet, get in shape, and gtf out there. @op
Your name makes me concerned for you, but you are right.
I was in the same boat at 24. Dates, kisses, touching, sex, love all happened that year.
It's hard to convey in 140 characters but I absolutely meant to convey that you should do whatever it takes to be happy in yourself, i.e
make necessary changes, whether they be to your attitude or your whole self. Or both.
I guess that's a matter of opinion. There's plenty of time to turn your life around, is what I meant to convey.
Fuck man, it sure did
My sister didn't date until she was almost 30. Now she's engaged. Keep your head up
Isn't it great?
Calling him out lmao
Agreed. Meetup is how I met my bf. We were just friends hanging out at common events before we started dating. Been dating for 4 years now
These days video games are so good, who needs a date?
Find someone who loves to listen
I'm 17 (yeah ik I'm still young) and I'm really scared of this too... Especially because my bff just got into a serious relationship
Ok so I watched this TED talk one time and its helped me quite a bit when it comes to things like this. The premise is this. Fake it 1
'Til you make it. If I ever lacked confidence I would just pretend to be someone who was. It sounds simple and stupid but just approaching 2
Situations where I am uncomfortable as if I was someone who would be perfectly at ease tricked me into actually becoming that person. I 3
Pretended to be confident for long enough that I just started to believe it and now I'm a reasonably confident person.
Altho on his profile he also said he had a wife and had been in relationships....
Same here, I've decided not to worry about it. I've got autism, I can understand a lot of things, but that's not one of them. Just life ????
Literally just go up to any girl and tell her this. It might take like 10 girls but one of them will kiss you
No. For she was not human. The one you laid wwith was....insectoid.
Years of my dad beating the shit outta me. I just snapped and didnt wanna continue living. He abandoned us.
Call me when you get to 31, and I'll have the 37 year old's viewpoint on that. :(
I don't know why I find this hysterical. Rofl.
Don’t worry about. Just be social and practice being around people and occasionally ask people (you find attractive) out.
Also: try to remember that whoever you are - you are someone’s masturbation fantasy. Someone out there has a kink that you fit perfectly in
Oh weird and he has lots of repeat posts
You need to stop caring. The less you do, the better off you'll be.
@OP stop putting the pussy on a pedestal. You can't have something meaningful until you have something physical.
MSM loves to go on about womens problems.. never will a women ever feel this emotion.
better to never have love and lost; is a truth that doesn't have to be yours.
its ok dude. im going on 38 and feel the same way.
imgur is a magnet for self pity, this place sucks
The only way to have it happen is to make it happen. Always work on being the best version of you, and keep asking until someone says yes.
49 this year, same boat. WIN! Don't settle out of desperation. A few years with the right one has to be better than many with the wrong one.
Sorry to hear that, I hope you are doing better now
When you find that goal that changes you and finally look back you will realize thatchange was needed to find the partner that satisfies you
As in converse, not one-sided talking... Also because I can't really keep up a conversation by myself.
Gave up on it a while ago. I don't plan on living too much longer anyways.
I broke my back at age 22. I was working construction and a stack of 12x4 dry wall fell on top of me, it was stacked vertically.
The company I was working for was already illegally operating, I was unaware, the real owner already in prison, no workers comp, no 1 to su
TL;DR: I spent 10 years of my life trying to escape from my problems as I descended into substance abuse.
Once I realized that I was literally killing myself I spent some time making up my mind if I wanted to live or die.
I decided that no matter how bad the future was it had very little chance to be worse than what I suffered and death is final.
I decided to rebuild everything. No matter how little strength or movement or hope or failure of character I could grow.
The back injury and addicted and lack of proper therepy caused me to have Chronic Bursitis of the hips and I have spent the last 3 years 1/2
2/2 Unable to even sit. Nothing is too much when you have a proper goal. Nothing can knock you down once you have that armor of hope.
Now I am off all the addictive drugs off all the things that lead me down that path, dropped 50 pounds, gained 10 pounds of muscle.
I can do things now that I could not do before my injury. I have in some ways made myself greater than I ever hoped. I am engaged.
In rebuilding myself I found the person I had dreamed of who could be the person my love needs.
I broke my back a 2nd time, re-injuring the first fracture and disc ruptures in a car accident 6 years later. Not my fault, but I dug deeper
Deeper into addiction and self pity.
No matter the circumstance you have to own what happened to you to ever get something larger than your suffering in your head.
Love yourself. Live for yourself. And that energy will attract the right people. But only you can create it. Take that first step.
actually it's most of the account that's a lie.. but i totally see how you would think it was the other way around
Thank you, man, i really appreciate that. i'm gonna do my best to work on it
Good luck, my dude.
And keep yourself in the manner you’ve grown accustomed to. If it’s so desperate at home, there’s probably a way.
Try and check the internet then. I'd reccomend generic things like gyms or fishing (if you like that stuff). If the community is bad ther1/2
Theres always stuff on the internet to learn about people to interact with and eventually meet up. Sorry I couldn't help more.
Shut up Cletus.
I've been trying tinder for months. For the most part, it's useless unless you're like 8-10.
Whenever I hear about people in your situation, I have to wonder how deep it actually goes.
I desperately want you to be wrong.
Are you in the same boat?
Follow up question, is your bottom in fact remarkably wide?
Nobody said it was easy.
I have problems with crowds and I have terrible bitchy resting face. Its hard quite often getting close cause breakdowns scare everyone away
Nah just regular sized, really.
Ok miss LadyRegularbottom, I accept your false advertising. Lol
It was a Simpsons reference but somebody took Sir Widebottom.
Lol ok I won’t have a cow..... man.
I did, it's a dead account lol somebody took the name and did nothing with it.
That bastard!!!!! I wonder if accounts expire after lack of use?
Don't think so :( I'll get him one day.
Still, you will get no's & gotta get used to it
Have you tried joining another basketball team or joining up with your old one? I too have resting bitch face, but I smile more in public
To counter act it. I just raise the corners of my lips
Yah Ive got a missing tooth from a fall and no insurance. My ankle has had major surgery so I cant.
Sorry to hear that. Have you tried dental schools? They charge a lot less.
I make 13 dollars an hour I can barely afford car insurance